All hell broke lose last night Sunday gossip as the world turns

Thank you so much. It has been so rough !!!!! Me and my daughter have our relationship so close. Her kids and the both of us are so happy. David my husband is not healthy for us and we know it. She wants out as bad as I do. That is why she wanted me to move with her. But I dont think I need to do that, She needs to make it on her own. and I need to be happy... So Time will tell. I feel really good about this. I am happy that you found love again. Thats what I have found. And he is not only that he is a friens I can talk to... I never found you post offensive. I was asking for feedback. I gotr the feedback. Then gave reason why Im doing what Im doing. Thank you Hugs Barb

I'll be thinking of you. It'll all work out. Good luck and keep us posted. Pam

good morning barb... I haven't been here in a while...I just haven't had time to get online...so today while work is very slow I decided to drop by and see what's going on...whenever I get to come online I see that you're very active on the board...you asked for feedback on your situation... I have just finally settled my divorce after dealing with it for almost 3 years...I was lucky enough to buy him out of "our" house which is now MY house...when I threw him out for cheating on me he stopped communicating with his children (they were 17 & 19 at the time)...I never realized that I was unhappy in my marriage until he was gone and my entire life changed. I too married for all the wrong reasons... I do not condone cheating (especially since it was done to me and is a horrible thing to deal with psychologically)...however, if your marriage was as bad as it was for so long I would just like to ask you why you stayed as long as you did...I do believe that WLS does effect the outcome of a marriage...bad to worse...good to better...I am basically your age (I'll be 47 in June) and life is now all about me and my happiness...my girls are my first priority...if they need me I am and always will be there for them but I have made time and taken time just for ME now...it's something I never did before...I am a new person. I think that's what I am seeing in you...you took care of your grandchildren when your daughter couldn't...you stayed in an unhappy marriage most likely due to lack of confidence and self-esteem...you've found a man that makes you happy and gives you the attention you need and require..Just be careful...don't jump from the frying pan to the fire...take things slowly with this new man in your life...if you do end up going thru a divorce you'll need all your strength and emotional well-being to get thru that...take some time for YOU...jumping into another relationship right away is going to be very difficult...and possibly a rebound reaction...the words "I love you" can be an extremely powerful tool and can manipulate you into thinking that things are wonderful...Flattery and physical contact are an amazing thing and make us feel like high school girls again...I just don't think moving in with him right away is a good idea...just go slow..there's no rush...if it's meant to be...it will be. Take some time for Barb to find out what she really wants in life and what will make her happy. You're a new person with a new body and a new outlook on life. I wish you all the best in your situation and I will try my best to keep track of what's going on now that work has slowed down a little bit...if there ever comes a time where you need to talk to someone with an unbiased opinion feel free to contact me. Please just take things slow... hugssssssss....Linda

Here is my story from the other side of the equation. I was the "other" woman 10 years ago. My husband now was in a very unhappy marriage. I was very young at the time (22) and my mother had just had a devastating stroke that resulted in her being a quadriplegic. Needless to say, we were both lonely. It was wrong, I know that now, and I'm sure if his ex-wife knew he had been with me prior to their divorce it would hurt her deeply. Anyways, point to my story is we have been together for 10 years (married 7 of those years come July) and have a beautiful 6-year old daughter

Morning Barb, Hope you didn't go fishing. wow what a time your going through. I hope that it all works out in the end. I had two friends that have gone through a divorce and lived with the x for many months. It was very hard on both of them. It is more common than not. With that in mind, take your time before moving on. I believe strongly in become the best, happiest person you can be by your self. Don't let someone else define your happiness. It is so easy to get caught up in someone else that we forget who we are. If Dale is Mr. Right he will be Mr. Right in a few months when things settle down more. He also should be willing to wait while you make peace with your family. Your daughter and soon to be x will appreciate the fact that you finish up with all this stuff before you move on. Even if the X is a horses ass, try to be strong and do the right thing - it will be a good lesson for your daughter and grandsons. It also defines you as the nice person that you really are. Now emotionally I say go for it. It is so cool to have some one love you fully. My DH and I have gone through some really hard times- he never cheated but had become very friendly with a friend of mine. When it got back to the point that he looks in my eyes and I see that he truly loves me it has made all the difference. best of luck with everything a friend donna

Hey Barb - First off NO FISHING with him -- Seriously, I just want to tell you that I think you should do what your heart tells you, and thankfully you have the courage to do it. Life is too short for shoulda, woulda, couldas. I've allowed people in my life to treat me badly because I didn't think I deserved more cause I fat what the hell was I thinking. I understand when you say "he talks to me", even when everyone is home, I'm lonely. I've been keeping track and the only time anyone pays attention to me is if I can do something for them........ I hope all goes well for you! Micha