Why are people so mean?

I think you are right Donna, maybe she was jealous. She is a short girl but she has gained quite a bit of weight since school. I guess you just hope your friends will be there for you, and it sucks when they are not. It was really nice because one of my really good friends who just moved to VA came home for a visit last weekend. I would guess she weighs close to 400 pounds, anyway she told me that I was her inspiration and to keep up the good work. I don' t think anyone has ever said anything that meant so much to me. I guess it can go both ways- either hurt real bad or feel real good. Christine

Yep went to a wedding reception for a guy who works for my husband. There was a wife i had never met there before and a new female troop evidently they are buddy buddy. The guys i know from seeing at work and i havent seen most of them since surg or at least the xmas party. They were shocked at my weight loss and commenting on how good i looked. Well evidently this was a threat to her as she proceeded to look me up and down stare and whisper off and on for the first hour. Why do people do this and act like its not obvious? I know im not model thin and i know im not drop dead gorgeous or anything but why must someone put you down in order to make themselves feel better? Ive also noticed as ive gotten smaller than my sister who was my biggest support that she doesnt tell me i look good at all anymore. I see her maybe once a month its not like i expect it daily or something. Oh well life is too short to worry about this I guess not that it makes it any easier. lol So Christine its not just you. I think maybe some people just feel threatened and do this to boost themselves. Tammy O

wow size 10 you must be excited. It is funny how different people are reacting. I saw some guys I used to race boats with this weekend. I hadn't seen them in 17 years. wow- I wasn't really big then but bigger than I am now. Now my little sister used to be what we called a pit princess. She didn't race just was a really cute 16 year old who all the drivers used to go nuts over. When we went to this race, I am thinner than her now. It kind of made my sister, who is very supportive, very self concise. I think that being the big person in a group gave others a feeling that they looked better and made them more comfortable. For us to be smaller it changes the dynamics a lot. Keep up the good work and don't worry about one bad apple, donna

I agree that a lot of people are jealous. My cousin encouraged me to have the surgery and now that I have lost 105 lbs she is being very distant with me. All I can figure is that she's getting jealous. I used to be a size 28 or 30 and now I am a size 16. Well, she's a size 14 and the closer that I get to her size the less I see of her. I've heard from many people about gaining back the weight. I get real put out with them. I have worked hard to lose this weight and I don't want to hear negative remarks from people. It's almost like they want to make you depressed so that you will gain back the weight. I am having too much fun buying clothes and going out with my husband to let them bring me down. Diana