My face doesn't seem to be really "sagging", but my wrinkles sure are "defined"!! (That sounds MUCH better, don't you think?) I also have "bags" under my eyes that I never noticed before!!! When people comment on my wrinkles I just tell them that I EARNED every one of them and I'm keeping them!!! LOL Hugs, Pam

I DEFINITELY think that most food cravings are tied to vitamin defficiencies!! I've not been craving olives, but I don't think that it's all that strange that you do. Sooooooooooo glad that you are back on the vitamins. They are SO important to us, and So are you!!! Thanks for taking care of yourself. We NEED you!!!! Hugs, Pam

Hey Dollie, I wish you luck on your upcoming PS. I have inner thigh troubles too. May I ask what they do for that? I didn't know you could have it all done at once either. That is good to know for the future. Keep us posted on your surgery... terri

Erin, First of all, big huggs. I'm a firm believer that if you have a wonderful marriage pre-op, you will post-op...but if your marriage has problems pre-op, WLS will not fix those problems but most likely bring them to the surface. I feel the same way about having babies. DH is visually handicapped and every since he had to put his business up for sale due to his vision getting so bad that he was considered medically & legally blind, we have had marital problems...every 6-8 months. This started 5 years ago..so definately pre-op. Everything will be going great and then out of the blue I will get an email from him telling me that things aren't working out, that we should go our own ways. Every time I talk things through with him & things calm down until the next round. Myself, I think it's an attention getter. While I am at work, he's home feeling sorry for himself. I am however to the point of being tired of going through this. I feel like my world is turned upside-down each time this occurs. I can't help but wonder if the next time won't be the time I throw my hands up and say 'yep, you're right'. The last time was about 4 weeks ago and I am no where near letting my guard down this time around...which usually I do after about 2 weeks. Instead, I am tryng to prepare myself financially for should that occur. It sounds like your marriage wasn't exactly perfect pre-op. If it were, your in-laws wouldn't be a big factor (btw..I think I love my mother-in-law as much or more than I do my dh...and DEFINATELY more than I do my step-daughter (who is 30)). If your dh is being so controlling that you aren't taking care of yourself as you should and can't be yourself...why would you want to save this marriage? Prepare yourself to make it on your own..mentally, physically, financially. After you do that, and ONLY after you do that, let him know that you both ARE going to marriage counseling or you are leaving him. Take the bull by the horns. But protect yourself first. My sister is going through a divorce and did NOT do this...her ex removed everything from the house and has it all in storage somewhere..and she has no idea where. He bounced their checking accounts & ran up the cell phone charges (that was in her name). He did everything he could to make things hard on her. So....before you lay down the law, protect yourself. Best wishes..... Sherri

Hmmm....I don't know about losing it in the face first....or if after you lose X lbs that you won't lose more in the face. My PS advised me to wait on any ps until I was within 20 lbs of my final goal weight to achieve the best posible results from the ps. I have 13 more lbs to go till I'll be able to do that. I know that was mainly referring to the body lift, but I'm glad I waited on all of it because it seems like my face sags more & more every day. just me.. Sherri