:wave: Hey Sept Board, ...

Dea J.
on 8/2/05 6:01 am - Huntsville, AL

Hey Sept Board, Please forgive me - I just have a need to vent. I'm so overwhelmed - I'm crying - can't quit - sooooo tired - sooooo frustrated - so helplesss - I just don't know what to do. Omigosh - dont you just hate whiners? Tell me to shuddup - but send me some hugs - I could really used them - OK?

- hugs - dea Momma's sick again - going back to rehab - I always hated being the only child - She's so mad @ me - I'm going thru identity crisis - I feel like such a failure - as a wls patient - I've not lost any weight in a month now - I'm addicted to s/f fraps - I'm a miserable daughter - I sure can't please her - I've neglected my kids - I'm a awful mom - I don't feel like I've been there when Mark needed me recently - I'm a awful wife- Can I say FAILURE - I just can't seem to connect with superwoman - and okay- okay - I'm shudding up and going back into hiding

amom22
on 8/3/05 1:17 am - Bowling Green, Ky

RNY on 09/20/04

Dea, (((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Come on stop this awful self talk. None of that is true. You have to give yourself a break. I know what you mean being the only child. I never get a break with my mom. Everything that concerns her is shared with me and sometimes I don't want to hear all her stuff. She has nothing to do but be in mine and my kids stuff. She thinks she is a parent to my kids instead of a grandparent. Anyway, I know what you mean. DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP ANYMORE. We all have ups and downs We are all just doing the best we can at the time. I have days when I too feel like an awful mother and wife and daughter but we aren't. Just bad days. It will be okay. Now shuuuuuuuuuuuuuuduuuuup Good Luck Tina

Dea J.
on 8/3/05 2:16 am - Huntsville, AL

RNY on 09/15/04

Tina, Thanks! I'm feeling much better today. Yeppers - being an only kid sucks - my mom is jealous of everybody and everything in my life. Thanks again for listening and encouraging me to shuddup and get on with living

- hugs - dea

SUPERMANs_Wife
on 8/3/05 1:24 am - U S M C Picks my home..., NC

RNY on 09/09/04

awww dea... calm down .... you may seem like a failure to ur mom but i have to say that if ur there for her and takin on the big responsibilities then ur not... i have worked in nursing homes for the last 8 yrs... and to tell you the truth more then half of the residents there only have us nurses and aides for there family... bc the families think k i drop them off and i show up once a yr and that will be fine... its not... I remember 3 yrs ago a family knew that there relative was dying at a fast pace and they decided to up and leave for a cruise... they told us to call f she passed ... well she did and we called ... they had the nerve to say well we are on vacation do you actully think we are gonna stop it just to come home... the poor lady was in the morge for 2 wks before they got back... they didnt care at all.. i guess what i am sayin is hang in there. Its really stressful. Now about ur kids and hubby surely they understand... i mean come on they aint gonna hate you ... so come on smile everything will be fine... and if not i am here and you can lay into me.. manda

Dea J.
on 8/3/05 2:18 am - Huntsville, AL

RNY on 09/15/04

Manda, Thanks hon - Today is a much better day - I do care - I've just got to realize that I do the best I can and all that I can - that will just have to do! Nooooo - I dont wanna lay into you - You are my encourager.

- hugs - dea