Bad news...car accident..I'm okay though

Hey all, Just thought I would let you all know...I was in a car accident today...I ha**** by a 92 yr old guy...it totaled my car....I only had liability...so I am screwed...the older guy said I ran a red light....and when I called my dad to tell him about it, I got an earfull...and boy am I hearing about it still....I live with my dad, and he hasn't stopped complaining about it. He is not a very good supporter for me, and likes to harp about everything. Even now at 7:20 (the accident was about 1 pm) he is still *****ing. He is going to drive me nuts!!! I am stuck at home till I can find another car...and of course he is against me doing that....I don't seem to do anything right by him. When I decided to have surgery he kept telling me I wasn't doing the right thing...but I did it anyways....I knew I needed to do it for my health. Financially if I could afford it...I wouldn't be here...but that is not an option, as of now. Things were just starting to go well, and then this. Sorry I have been so upset and had no one else to talk too....I needed this. Also by the way...I did post a new pic of me on my profile....It was taken in december It isn't the best...but at least you can see the differences in my face. thanks for listening to me.... April

April, I'm soo sorry that you had that accident but I'm more sorry that you have a parent who is very unsympathetic with you as a whole person. I know it is very difficult! I lived with both my parents and my Dad was always a nightmare. He critized me and so many other things. It wasn't until I finally moved out. But as you say you are not able. I would put plug in my ears and try to tune him out. You are in a difficult situation if you stay there but you have to be YOUR own person. Parents have a tendency to manage their kids lives all the time. And sometimes it is helpful but sometimes they just want to rule ya. I don't go to the store with my mom lots of time because anything that I might to buy she will oppose (nicely) but I tell her I need it etc...and to avoid this situation I go by myself. I just want to congratulate you on going ahead with the surgery and improving your life - despite your parent's "objections". It is not his life but yours to live. All I can say is I'm glad that you are okay and that I hope you will be able to find another car soon. Good luck to you and KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!

April, I am glad your ok. Car accidents are scary enough without having to worry about an injury. We live upstairs from my parents and just about everyday I wish I could afford to move out. Nothing like having total privacy. I am sorry your father isn't very supportive. Since he's been like that forever I am sure you use to ways or trying to ignore it. Unfortunantly that doesn't cut it everytime. Some people can't be happy for other's no matter what. I know you just wanted to vent but just know that your not alone in life with crap. I hope your able to get a car fast and things start falling back into place for you. Your picture looks great. What a difference. Keep up the great work. Shannon

April, The most important thing is that you are ok. I'm sorry about the loss of your car and your dad not being more understanding. Hang in there! You have accomplished an amazing thing already in courageously following your heart for this surgery. My parents fought me on it as well, and it took a lot of soul searching even for me, a 39 year old woman to go against their advice. I'm so so so glad WE DID!!!! Your picture is great! It not only shows your weight loss, but your personality is shining through as well . Again, I'm so glad you're ok!!! ~Sue

Bless your heart!! I know that must have been very traumatic for you! Thank GOD you are all right. Surely when your dad realizes that you could have been killed he will "settle down" and act more civilized. If he didn't care at all, he would not be upset, but he probably loves you VERY much and just doesn't know how to express it. I hope things get better soon. Again, Thank GOD you were not seriously injured!!