please help

Ok so i know this is gonna sound stupid but Im in need of your help. I can absolutely eat whatever i want!! Anything, and nothing bothers me...NOTHING!!!! Sugar,alcohol, meat, fried, saucy, bread all of it!!! It scares the crap outa me. I have not eaten alot of sugar just a lick or a kiss here and there but I wanted to Dump..sugar was my down fell before )c:I have to eat slowly, and i dont eat huge amounts, but geez im only 15 weeks out..Why can I eat so much???? The only thing I dont do is Soda. Please any advice you could give would be great!! I actually feel like I have to diet, I have to make a big effort not to eat empty calories. I guess im scared and confused, I know my pouch is a tool...still just dont want to screw this up like every other diet I have failed with!!!

Christina, Thank you so much for posting this. I too can eat what i want. I have lost 54 pounds to date and know that could I not eat some of what I do, I would be better off. I have to really watch what I eat and make an effort to do protien first at all meals and sloooooow down. I have had a couple of sips of soda, but do not have more than a gulp. I think that I come from an area that I know I cannot eat a big amount, but feel that if I deprove myself 100%, I will have problems., I am still at only between 800-900 calories a day, so I will still lose weight. I do find that when I can exercise, my need to want to eat goes down. Although dont really get hungry most days anyway.... Wow, after reading this sure does not sound like I helped you much, but at least I do understand. Will be interested to see what advice follows from others... Terri

I don't know if this will hel*****t but my only advice would be to take a deep breath and relax!! This is a perment thing we did to ourselves and we need to accept it and let it work. This includes following the pouch rules but not becoming obsessed with it. I am trying to stay calm about it all because this is going to affect the rest of my life and hey!!--- we all have to live in the real world. So stay calm and do the best you can to eat right and I believe you will do fine!! If you make a bad choice one day, don't beat yourself up over it, just strive to do better the next time. Some of us may loose slower but we will get there!!! I have faith that you can do it and I will too!! Sharon

Train your mind. Even if you can eat it physically , why would you want to? You need to remember how hard you fought and or wanted to have wls to have that better life , especially when you want to reach for those bad foods. And then realise it is not worth it. One minute of taste , for a lifetime of heaviness. Make better choices when it comes to food. You have to change your lifestyle ie mind , as well as your body.

Christina, I made the discovery over the holidays that fat and sugar doesn't bother me a bit--and wow! How depressing!! You see, I have been having trouble with a stricture and anything with density or texture would make me sick. I was so sick of throwing up that Christmas eve, I first ate a piece of homemade caramel then five minutes later ate a piece of homemade fudge. I sat back and waited for the pain and to throw up, but--NOTHING!!! Did I go nuts and eat candy? No way. I was totally depressed for a couple days but I came to realize it's up to me to use this pouch as the tool that will save my life. I'm still very afraid of food and the food demons. I find great strength in reading posts from peope who are a year or more past this surgery. You and I have to accept the struggles earlier that everyone will have to deal with later on---head hunger without dumping. But, since we have our pouches, we can and WILL succeed. When I think how much better I feel now than last Christmas, I have to admit that caramel and fudge wasn't worth it. That quick little "fix" made me feel guilty, depressed, angry and like a failure. But I'm NOT!! I've lost 5 lbs since Christmas. Before this surgery, I would have fallen off the wagon and gained 5lbs!! Thanks so much for posting this. I'm like you---so afraid this isn't going to work, either. But, from what I've learned from others, as long as I respect the pouch and the rules, I may occasionally stray but I WILL succeed!! Hang in there, Beth -70lbs

Actually, sounds like MANY of us are in this same boat!! I don't dump either, and I am SOOOOOOO disappointed. Sweets have always been my major downfall too, so I hoped desperately that it would make me VERY sick, but it does not. I ate a good bit of candy during the holidays. BUT, not NEARLY as much as I would have. Actually, I just couldn't hold that much!! I was in tears at my last doctors appointment because I was so scared that this is not going to work for me and my doctor said that this is a very common fear and that I just have to learn to "trust" my pouch. He says that he sees this fear all the time, but he still sees success stores EVERY day. And, WE are going to be successful, too. It is a LOT harder than I thought it would be, I have to admit, but I believe that I can do this with the help of my new "tool". I believe that you can, too!!

I discovered at the Holidays that I don't dump either. But because I am so determined to be a thinner, healthier person and enjoy life, I have set up a "treat" day/time. I can only treat myself to a bite of dessert or candy on Sunday. And only if I have lost during the week. It is a reward and keeps me motivated. Best of luck to all and Happy New Year.