What do you tell people?
Hi Trudi! 
Boy, did you ever get some great replies!!!
There are still many at work I did not tell, in fact, like you, I only told one person. Recently I told another person with whom we have shared some secrets and she was not positive or negative about it. I was going to tell my closer co-workers, as I feel like I am lying to them and to myself when I said, "I had my gall bladder removed, had some GI complications, and now have really low carb. options and sugar free foods, etc." I may eventually tell. I don't know either and I go back and forth. My entire family knows, my church and inlaws and they have been all supportive. I had one person who knows I had the surgery come up with deep concern and tell me that I have to eat, I've lost way too much weight so quickly!!! LOL! Obviously, doesn't get this? LOL Anyway, I will tell some in due time I figure. In the meantime, it is my personal decision and journey, to make with others that finally do understand. There are a lot of people out there that do not understand and at this point and time, I don't have the energy or need to educate right now (going through trauma with a broken arm that hasn't healed in 6 months and having more surgery on this arm Jan. 7th). The bottom line I feel is that I am lying about me being successful and therefore about my overall MO. If I could have done it on my own with low carb and sugar free foods, etc., I wouldn't have had the surgery. I feel personally like I am misrepresenting why we have to resort to the WLS in the first place....this disease will eventually not allow us to lose the weight on our own anymore, enough of it, and keep it off. So, for now, I just go with the flow and smile and say Thank You. Those that ask too many questions, I don't tell because then they will become too invested in me, like the other posts, and be asking too much. I am a private person, although very outgoing, I like my privacy too. I think eventually I will tell my closest coworkers, more as an educational thing. That is my biggest thing: to educate and to let others know that I never choose this MO body and had to do the WLS in ordre to be healthy. It isn't a quick fix nor is it something everyone can just go in and do. There's a lot of emotional and physical and financial dealings with this and I am proud of myself and all of you who had the strength to go beyond and do this surgery.
I don't think I answered your post, but I put in my 5 cents worth---sorry so long :O
Take Care,
As Usual, My very best to everyone on here and Happy, Healthy New Year!
Love, Michelle
Boy, did you ever get some great replies!!!
There are still many at work I did not tell, in fact, like you, I only told one person. Recently I told another person with whom we have shared some secrets and she was not positive or negative about it. I was going to tell my closer co-workers, as I feel like I am lying to them and to myself when I said, "I had my gall bladder removed, had some GI complications, and now have really low carb. options and sugar free foods, etc." I may eventually tell. I don't know either and I go back and forth. My entire family knows, my church and inlaws and they have been all supportive. I had one person who knows I had the surgery come up with deep concern and tell me that I have to eat, I've lost way too much weight so quickly!!! LOL! Obviously, doesn't get this? LOL Anyway, I will tell some in due time I figure. In the meantime, it is my personal decision and journey, to make with others that finally do understand. There are a lot of people out there that do not understand and at this point and time, I don't have the energy or need to educate right now (going through trauma with a broken arm that hasn't healed in 6 months and having more surgery on this arm Jan. 7th). The bottom line I feel is that I am lying about me being successful and therefore about my overall MO. If I could have done it on my own with low carb and sugar free foods, etc., I wouldn't have had the surgery. I feel personally like I am misrepresenting why we have to resort to the WLS in the first place....this disease will eventually not allow us to lose the weight on our own anymore, enough of it, and keep it off. So, for now, I just go with the flow and smile and say Thank You. Those that ask too many questions, I don't tell because then they will become too invested in me, like the other posts, and be asking too much. I am a private person, although very outgoing, I like my privacy too. I think eventually I will tell my closest coworkers, more as an educational thing. That is my biggest thing: to educate and to let others know that I never choose this MO body and had to do the WLS in ordre to be healthy. It isn't a quick fix nor is it something everyone can just go in and do. There's a lot of emotional and physical and financial dealings with this and I am proud of myself and all of you who had the strength to go beyond and do this surgery.
I don't think I answered your post, but I put in my 5 cents worth---sorry so long :O
Take Care,
As Usual, My very best to everyone on here and Happy, Healthy New Year!
Love, Michelle
Thank you everyone for your replies. I found them very informative and they give me a lot to think about. I guess when I really get down to it, I have a lot of personal feelings toward WLS that I need to deal with.
I appreciate everyone who has and may (in the future) reply to this. You are invaluable to me.
Have a Healthy and Happy New Year!!
Trudi
Applause to you all!!!!
Applause to you all!!!! 
At first I didn't tell many people. When people started asking what I was doing to lose weight I would say, "Low fat, low sugar, and a 2-hour gym routine." Not a lie. Then I started thinking . . .What am I ashamed of. When you lose 75 pounds in less than four months, people pretty much know you've done something drastic so I've started telling people. Heck - I even want to go up to strangers who are as big or bigger than I was about WLS and my personal successes. I'm so pleased with the results - both weightloss and improved health - that I want to shout it from the rooftops!
Prior to surgery I only told my family (by letter) and my boss. But now I get plenty of compliments. I can see that people want to know but they have not yet asked me. Others watch me when I eat at social gatherings and ask me...Is that all you are gonna eat....I just say yeah, I'm not really that hungry. LOL....It's killing them I know.....LOL
I deal with it on a case by case basis...If it's someone that I feel is sincere and genuinely concerned about me....I tell them. But I don't share that information with many people.
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I told all of my family, in laws, close friends and close co workers and I am glad that I did because for the one ignorant comment I get I also received tons of support from the people who truly love me anyway. As far as everyone else is concerned I take their compliments and say thank you and that is it. If I have not told them then there is a reason that I do not think it is their business. I am not ashamed of what I have had done but yet on the same hand i do not feel like I should have to explain my life to people I don't much care for anyway. I have only heard one stupid comment and that was from my husbands uncle who was talking about his brother in law who also had the surgery. His comment to his wife was "He did not lose ANY weight the doctor lost it for him..it's not like he had to do anything." At that point I decided that I did not want him to know anything about me because he is OBVIOUSLY ignorant. He has NO IDEA what we have been through and the lifestyle changes that we also had to make to accomodate our new bodies. So if you do not want people to know just tell them you busted your butt for your new body...It's not a lie (I remind myslef that everyday after about the 3rd mile on the treadmill lol)
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