Crying alot...

I had my surgery on Sept. 29th and every since I came home it seems I am crying at the drop of a hat. Has anyone else done this or does anyone have any ideas as to why this is happening?

You have just gone through a huge change, in body and in mind. This is major. It is much more than falling down and scraping your knee. Your body and mind need to adjust to your new body and all that is ahead of you. I used to view food as a friend, a hobby, and a psychiatrist. If you are the same, you just lost that in one day. As time goes by, I'm sure you will adjust. Keep your head up, you just have to heal. Also, anestesia can play with your hormones and after it is out of your body, you may feel much better. Kell

Just want to say thank you for your help and I have noticed as the days go by things seem to be getting better. thanks again.

Peggy, Just wanted to let you know this happened to me too. Normally I am a very positive person (though I can get too sentimental and teary sometimes, especially certain days of the month!) The first few days after my surgery, I was emotional about weird things. I was staying with my mom and dad for the first week, which was great in terms of care (they helped with my 6 yr old, drove her to school, etc) but I missed my home and my husband and older daughters and my time alone. At one time I tearfully asked my dad if he could drive me home to "visit" my house! ( he thought i was losing it ) then i got teary again when i saw the road to my house, IT WAS STRANGE! Then I walked in and saw my dogs, and house and waaaaah! I think it is a combination of so many things, such as a release of hormones, the release of stress that built up in anticipation of having surgery, gratitude to be alive and well post-op, not having food to medicate with anymore, and everything else! Usually it does pass. It has for me, i feel excellent now! But if you don't feel better soon, talk to your doc. In the meantime, talk to us and I'm sure you'll feel better before you know it! ~Sue

Sorry to hear your crying a lot. Like everyone says, you've had something huge and drastic happen in your life. No one exactly how they will handle the change. Also your body may be all discombobulated and your hormones could be out of wack. When I first came home it was like week 2 and I was over my sister in laws. They decided to order pizza. This was my first real time around food that I loved. Then they ask me if I can have some which pi$$ed me off at first. I tell them all I am having this surgery and won't be able to eat "real" foods for a while. Then I sat there drinking chicken broth and feeling worse and worse. I ended up having to leave and I cried all the way home. I wasn't going to talk about it but then my husband talked me into it. He was upset that I wouldn't tell him and he told me it wasn't right to keep it all in. After talking to him about my feelings it really helped nad made me feel better. I hope you have someone close to you that you can talk to. Sometimes it helps to hear out loud why your feeling so bad. I hope you feel better soon... Shannon

Thank you for your help. I wanted to tell you a story that happened to me 3 days after surgery. I was out with my sister and needed to get me some yogart and broth. So on the way home she said her and her 5 year old son needed to get some dinner so they stopped in at Wendy's and got some food and I thought I was going to go crazy. My mouth was wattering for the taste of the french fries. I can't believe she had the nerve to do that with me in the car. I was very Pi$$ed. I still have not had a chance to talk to her about this because I feel that I would make her upset and she has been a good support to me. I guess she was not thinking. Thank you again and good luck, Peggy

I pretty much agree with what everyone else has said. Our bodies have been through a pretty big trauma. . . and we have the loss of food. I was having withdrawals from being off my antidepressants for four days, but I started feeling better as soon as I got back on them. I tell you what . . . . right before my surgery, I posted on the main board about my love with food, and how much I enjoy good food and how good it makes me fee. I was slammed - BIG TIME! I was told that I needed therapy. . not surgery. I am so thankful I did not listen to those people. I did need this surgery and I do not regret having it. And yes, I did and do still love food. I probably always will. . . but I can't abuse it anymore. My surgery stopped that.

My crying started in the hospital and it was over being told I could go home a day early! All of my plans had been set based on a discharge day of Friday not Thursday. The hospital dietician was with me at the time and she was wonderful. She consoled me and said that it happens to about 80% of the patients. So chalk it up to being NORMAL. I am now about 3 weeks out and still it catches me by surprise. I cry at commercials and other things on TV. I went to see Ladder 49 over the weekend... there are scenes that will make you cry but I was sobbing... not just sniffing like everyone else. It is getting better so don't fret over it. you're pizza friends need a sensitivity course. That was cruel. When I went back to work... they were eating cake with cream cheese frosting (my fav)... only one person brought their cake to the nurses station and ate in front of me. Everyone else stayed in the lounge. I thanked everyone for being so considerate. Now when they eat in front of me... they try to hide it or apologize. It doesn't bother me unless its SUGAR!!!! Anyway, you did right by going home... it will get easier!!!

Everything is so new to you right now. You will feel so much better physically and mentally soon. Have you began to exercise? That sometimes help alleviate the change in your hormones. See if that works. You will be fine - we just lost one of our best friends - food.!! J.

Thank YOu for responding and Yes I do alot of walking and that does seem to help. I am doing better as the days go by. If I could just get the commercials to stop I would do great ha ha ha Thank you again and good luck to you, Peggy