1 Week Post Op and Sooooo Sad

I had my surgery this past Monday and thought it would be heaven afterwards but instead I am so depressed...I have not had anything to eat since last Saturday. I did try some jello this morning but could not handle it. I don't know if it is because I still have this tube in and my staples and I am so sore or what is going on but I am having moments where I really regret having this surgery. Is it normal to feel like this afterwards? I can't quit crying and wishing for some real food even though I am not even close to hungry and haven't been since surgery Mon

Please call you Dr.!! Feeling not hungry is usual, but not being able to eat anything is not average, check with him to make sure that you do not need to see his ASAP. I regreted my surgery about 15 hours after I had it, when I had my x-rays, I thought OMG what have I done. I've calmed down a little since then, but I think all of us have some sort of second thoughts. I hope you start feeling better very soon. I will hold you in My prayers.

I am so sorry your feeling so bad. It is totally normal though. You may have a few of those moments through out. I woudl call your doctor if your having trouble eating. That isn't good at all. You could be swollen but it is always better to be safe then sorry. Have you tried chicken broth? There isn't anything to it so it may be easier for you to swallow. I hope you start feeling better soon. I am not sure if you had to see a psychologist or not but it may be a good time to call her/him for a follow up. My surgeon urges all of us to go back as much as we have to so we can deal with our food issues. It does suck not being able to eat. One time I was sitting at my SIL's kitchen table while everyone else was eating pizza and I was eating chicken broth. I came home and cried that night. It has gotten better as the weeks have gone on. I know it will get better for you. Hang in there and try to get some rest. Shannon

Rachel - Feeling sad, weepy, depressed is somewhat normal, from all that I've gathered. I was VERY weepy for about 2 weeks! UGH! Couldn't even read the newspaper... So, that is very normal. I think even the food part is normal..it's scary, think about it. We have to relearn what we can eat, how much we dare eat and some foods, just aren't as good as others. Personally, the hard thing is the pureed stage. I find myself eating a lot of cottage cheese, just to have food that I don't have to puree. It seems to me you are doing ok, just going through what many others go through. It sure wouldn't hurt to call your doctor, but think it through, it may just be your own fear (our heads play games with us). I couldn't eat scrambled eggs at first and now I can. Just stay come, you are still early (I make it sound as if I'm MONTHS out..lol!). Write me if you'd like, [email protected] Take care! Valerie

HEY, Valerie...I'm a surgery twin of yours! yep, had it on the first.... And I have to agree that it is SAD sometimes not to be able to eat things. For instance, today is our 40th anniversary..........hubby wanted to know if I wanted to go out to dinner......... Right. I don't think so. "Well, how about if we open a good bottle of wine?" ?Right. I don't think so. "Well, can I go out and GET something that you can eat?" Right. I don't think so. Maybe next year........... Depressing, yes. Healthier, yes. Not sure I care right now........

Congratulations on 40 years of marriage. God Bless You and your hubby. Joyce

Louisa, I'm waiting on insurance approval so I've not gone through a lot of what I'm hearing, but I do have to tell you, for the longest time I've almost been MAD at my friends who want to 'go out to eat'. That also includes my family!! What happened to a good old 'let's go to the movies', 'how about a play', a wonderful walk through the park.... do we have to EAT every time we go out? Maybe I'm just getting psyched up for surgery but I sure am getting terribly beligerent with my family and friends!! Tell your hubby you'd LOVE to go OUT.... but not EATING out!! I don't think my adjustment is going to be nearly as difficult as the adjustment my family and friends are going to have to make to accommodate my new outlook on LIFE!! I'm so envious of all of you that have had your surgery and are doing fine and hopeful that those that have had complications will be on the feeling better side soon. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY AND CONGRATULATIONS ON THE NEW YOU!! Janet

Thanks for the wonderfully positive post, Janet!! Man, I was having a big old pity party, wasn't I???? LOL..what a difference a day makes! I think my big turnaround was that I cut out one of my bp meds and halved another one............whew.........that LOW bp makes you feel worse than the high that I am used to! I have to agree with you that your mind has already made the adjustment, and you will be much better off for it. How smart of you to get that mental part done ahead of time!! I had to laugh at your saying all social events seem to be about eating....THEY ARE!! I had just finished explaining to my husband how it was really not fun right now to go to a ****tail party............I don't drink, smoke, or eat............so who wants to stand around watching everyone else do it? Eventually I hope it won't matter, but right now it just accentuates what I have given up............it is not time for me to do that yet..........too depressing. Thanks again, and good luck on your approval! Let us know how it goes.

Hi Brandy. What you are feeling is completely normal. #1: You are still feeling the effects of the anesthia (believe it or not) and #2: you lost your best friend, food. I remember feeling like crying when I smelled Burger King food, in fact I actually did start crying. I was about a week out. Eventually, you will feel better when you see the weight start flying off and you can actually SEE the loss. Hang in there. The first 1-2 months are the hardest, but it is absolutely worth the agony to get to the goal. Take care!

My husband and I went through surgery on the same day. We regretted for days afterwards. I think we still do at this point. But there is no turning back the clock. It is what it is. We are uncomfortable, gassy, trouble sleeping, and the protein powder that we use to be able to handle pre-surgery, we can't anymore. So, now I've wasted $112 in a shipment just received a couple days after surgery. Depression is normal after surgery. I've heard not wanting to eat is also normal. We were released Friday and Hurricane Jeanne came Saturday night. Sunday afternoon, with no power, my parents were desperate to get us into air conditioning. They had friends with power, so my mom got Eric and I over there. Right before we left the wife cooked Mamwhich. Oh it smelled sooooo good. It actually got my tummy to rumble. I couldn't believe it! That was a first. If you haven't tried already, maybe see if the smell of food will help get your appetite going. Time frame - Surgery on Tuesday. Smell of food - Sunday.