It's my one year anniversary!
I am getting ready to celebrate my one year anniversary. I am so delighted. I am also a bit saddened because I have discovered that people really DO NOT look beyond appearances. I am treated so much differently now than when I carried the weight. It's almost like people don't want to see you when you are heavy. It saddens me a lot.
In the meantime, I am one happy camper. I now LOVE to shop...something that caused me great grief before. I feel healthy and can do so much more than I have been able to do these past years.
'Life is really good!! 
I totally understand what your talking about people do treat you differently, it is very sad. People that were rude to me before are nicer to me now. Happy Rebirthday Dee,
Great job. I totally understand the shopping thing as that has now become quite the experience for me as well. Also, I understand the way people change too----it really upsets me too that now people are really nice to me & the only thing that has changed about me is my size---inside I am still the same person. Sad to think how shallow some people really are. My true friends loved me when I was heavy as well as now, those are the people I love & trust not the "new found friend want-to-bes" I'm skeptical of trusting them since they didn't approve of me when I was heavy.
Anyways, I am happy to hear about your new found life, enjoy it you deserve it. Congrats & Happy Rebirthday once again.
Congrats on your first year - and success!
I think being invisible in some ways was a blessing. When I was heavier, I found that either I was the center of attention for just a minute or two when I walked into a room, restaraunte, etc., or just the opposite...I was invisible. I worked my whole life at the invisible thing, because being noticed was too risky - people may notice that I look how I look, you know? I succeeded in averting many deragatory comments - due to my strenuous effort to not draw attention to myself. Eventually, in the past few years I developed Diabetes and put on an additional 200 lbs in a short time. That meant that I no longer could be invisible! But, I found, after I became wheel chair bound it changed again. Now, though conspicuous as all get out...people were "nice", you know, nice like they are to disabled people. LOL ,strange journeys and reactions huh?
Now, I am cuter, thinner, less visible again. No longer in a wheelchair, attention has dropped significantly, whew. It's nice to be "normal" in a crowd for once.
Yes, people are very prejudiced against obesity. Don't know if that will ever change. I hope so though. How damaging to the self esteem! It's similar to being judged for the color of your skin. Just by one look many people judged me as unacceptable.
Keep it up everyone. This time is so crucial. Keep lurking! Thanks for being here.
Tammy
Hi Dee,
Happy Anniversary! I, too, have become a shopaholic - before I went shopping for clothes on an as needed basis and was grateful to find something to wear that looked halfway decent - now the choices are endless.
I do agree that it is disheartening how people treat obese people as opposed to those who are not. However, I have also learned over this past year that much of that is also our perceptions. As you said, we are essentially the same people as we were when we were obese, but in reality that isn't true. Most of us are happier and more comfortable with our new selves and that self-confidence we have gained has allowed us to put ourselves out there and behave as never before. People react to our behaviors, because we like who we are, so to do they. Anyway, just a thought.
Patti
Happy Rebirthday Dee! Congratulations on the successful weight loss!
I just look at it this way...the ******** who treat me differently...well I don't outwardly say or do anything about it...I just file it away in my file marked as "Those Kind Of People". I love my life so much now I don't want any negativity caused by another persons' shallowness to affect me or the way I feel.
Just keep on keepin on...and keep shoppin!
Mary Beth
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