I need your help

Hi everyone, I'm not losing FAST enough. 2 months out and 35LBS down. My weight is 287 and my Doc is expecting me to weigh 270 by mid month. I am trying but I guess I'm doing something wrong. I don't have a formal excercise regime, but I walk often. I suffer from back and knee pain so I break up my activities throughout the day. I know it's not enough. But what can I do. I take the extra walk when I shop, by parking far away from the entrances at stores. My hubby and I go to the park and walk with our dog. I clean house, do laundry, keep up the gardening, all of which I rarely did before. I want to say that I am doing just fine, but the guilt is overwhelming! My Dr. is a bit of a tyrant and will have my head if I am not at goal. It's a lot of pressure. I know I won't get there in time and I am feeling exasperated. The crazy thing is that I feel great and I can move and sit in a booth at a restaraunt, get through a turnstile without the fear of getting stuck and tie my shoelaces without huffing an puffing, and I am happy for all of it. So I guess when it comes to the Doc, What can I do to protect my feelings from his disappointment in me. I don't really care about him but, the way I feel when I leave is sheer torture and it takes me weeks to recover from it. please advise me, I just want to continue to feel great and to be proud that WLS has worked for me.

JulieAnn, First off let me congratulate you on 35 lbs gone. That is wonderful in anyones eyes despite what Grouchy Doc will think! Next let me ask when your surgery was. I am 10 weeks out and down 49 lbs. BUT>.... I havent lost an ounce in 4 weeks. I started out at 258 the day before surgery. They say us lightweights (as compared to 325 or so) will lose slower than the larger post ops. Next I need to know how your doing as far as eating? Getting your water, protien in? And how much you eat. See my problem is I dont eat enough to keep my body our of starvation. It is holding onto its fat store because it thinks I'll never feed it again. Thus I dont lose. We are supposed to be averaging 800-1000 calories a day depending on our docs regimine. I am getting a big whopping total of 90-150 a day! Also, I was eating more carbs than protien because I dont tolerate meat well but was able to eat soups, pastas, rice etc. So I started logging my food intake in at fitday.com (you should try this) and I seen where I was at carb wise, calorie wise. Problem solved right? NOPE still cant eat enough calories. So just wondering, how are you doing food wise? this might be your problem also. Check it out and see. Otherwise, your body is going to lose at ITS pace not yours. WE are all going to lose the weight but maybe not as fast as the next person. I know the hardest thing is to not compare yourself with anyone else. When I went back for my 6 wk checkup, he was pleased with 33 lbs down since I got out of the hospital (they dont count what you lose while your in the hospital but you can yourself ) anyways, dont fret over the doc.........you are doing this for you not him! If he wants you down a certain amount, you simply say, Im doing this for me not you and my body wants to lose it in this fashion not the way YOU want it too! Smile and say, besides, Im gorgeous and feel good right where im at! Hugs to you and check on your food intake, maybe you need to eat more like me!

I am going to be 11 weeks out tomorrow. I only weigh on my weekly day (which happens to be Thursday), so I have no idea yet how much I've lost this week. I can tell you, though, that I had lost 46 pounds by my 10-week mark. I was 41 pounds down at my two-month mark. You and I started at about the same weight (I was 320). Everyone tells me that my loss is very good and that I'm doing great. That includes my surgeon and his entire staff. I can't believe that your surgen is acting so horrible and "insisting that you weigh XXX by XXX amount of time or else." I have never heard of a more insenstive doctor. Everyone loses at their own rate and sometimes the loss doesn't come off as quickly as anyone expected, even if you are following every rule to the letter. Please don't let this man discourage you. You are doing wonderfully. Keep up the good work and give him a piece of your mind if he says anything rude to you! Hugs, ~Kristy (lap rny 9/18/03 - 320/274/168)

I agree with the others...you're dr. is being insensitive. If he's trying to encourage you, he's going about it the wrong way. I started about 268 and at 2 months I was at 31 lbs. The smaller you are to start the harder it can be. Yes, we all could probably work at little harder at the exercise....some days I do better than others. I would say follow his more important medical advice but eventually you won't have to deal with him. Firmly let him know you're doing your best and according to your online support group you are average. That's it and try not to let him bother you. Good luck and keep up the good work.

I agree with the others as well. I started at 287 and at 11 weeks out have lost 42 pounds. Yes I would like to have lost more, but just as Carol said, my Dr. says those who don't have as much to lose, lose it a little slower. He thinks I'm doing very well, and I haven't lost as much as you ! And yes, if it's a good protein week for me, the weight loss is better. And yes, there are week that no matter what I do, the weight doesn't budge. You keep your head up, you've been through the hard part already, your doctor only wants the best for you, but you may have to tell him to back off the pressure. Suzanne