Anyone's spouse having a hard time with your weight loss?

Is anyone else feeling like your spouse is not completely supportive? I know I have made lots of changes both physically and emotionally the last few months, but I am still the same person. Maybe I am missing something. I get compliments from everyone I see, but not much from my husband. Anyone else having this happen to them? Any suggestions? He says it is an adjustment for him too. I am not sure what to do. We are going to couseling, but I am worried.

my husband admitted that he was sad to lose his best eating buddy....he though****ching me eat buffalo wings without getting my beer bottle greasy was sexy...lol...he is supportive, just doesn't know if saying that I'm looking thinner is ok...like he would be admitting that i was fat before...lol better safe than sorry I guess... xxxBecca

they actually told us at one of our meetings that our significant other is going to have to go through the change with u and it might be alittle rough on them as well. Although ur basking in ur glory....he may feel a bit intimidated that ur doing so well and have an insecure thought u may leave him?! idk im sure its just taking alot for him to get used to....i know i constantly hear "ur gettin so skinny" from my fiance..and i love it! but then again he always hears me complaining how fat i am an how i cant wait to be thinner.....so he is very much suppportive of me an what i am doing. im sure things will work out for u...

My husband says he is supportive if you ask him BUT sometimes if you ask me I'd have to say no. I do have to say that it is more than slightly annoying to have him ask me when can you do that loose skin removal surgery?? Geez. I HAVE to look at it as a positive statement that I've lost that much that I DO have loose skin. I think it is a huge adjustment for them to make too. I'd have to say that my husband doesn't give many compliments either but then again he never really did before I had the surgery so I can't really expect him to change. I've been to several support classes and it has been addressed on the show Big Medicine where the spouse becomes insecure that you'll lose enough that you become more confident/outgoing and decide you don't feel like you want to stay in the relationship anymore. Remember though this is YOUR time and that you are doing the weight loss for YOU. Take the compliments as a sign you are on the right track and hopefully he will come around. Best of luck to you both.

My fiance doesn't say too much either, once in a while he will, but rare. I asked him about it and he said he is proud of me. I think mostly it is cause we see each other everyday. So really you don't notice change so much when you see someone all the time and tend not to say anything about it. A friend of mine brought over a picture of me from 3 years ago and I showed it to him and he said it is amazing isn't it...the change. So honestly I think sometimes it is just cause they are right there all the time.

I'm the most blessed woman in the world, I think. My husband has been soooo supportive since day one. I know it's been difficult for him sometimes, though. He's 12 years older than me and I think sometimes in the back of his mind he wonders if the same thing will happen this time as last time. His first wife left him for another man after she'd lost a bunch of weight. I have reassured him, I'M NOT GOIN' ANYWHERE. He's my partner, my soul-mate, my best friend, my one-and-only. I can't begin to imagine life without him. I do understand the fear behind this issue, though. I think the "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" thing plays a key part in why men don't say outloud what we want to hear. Most times it's much easier for women to express their feelings than it is for men. After reading these posts, I asked my husband, "why do you think their husbands aren't telling them they're proud of them, or that they look wonderful, etc?" He said, "because men just don't SAY things like they should. We tend to say it wrong, or not at all because we're AFRAID we'll say it wrong, or it will come out the wrong way and hurt your feelings." Makes perfect sense to me. If they say outloud, "wow, you look soooo good" or "you HAVE lost a bunch of weight, I'm proud of you" then they feel like we might hear, "wow, you really WERE a blimp before you lost all this weight" or "you look good NOW, but you were unsightly before." When they say what we want to hear, they fear we aren't hearing what they're truly saying. I remember one time Steve told me, "I can say some stupid s**t so be forewarned that if I do, I probably don't mean it the way you take it." LOL covered his bases there didn't he? Truly, I just think they have a difficult time knowing what to say so they just don't say much at all, if anything. We can rest assured in our own minds that we've done a great thing for our health and know in our hearts they love us and are proud of us. But DANG IT it IS nice to hear it too! LOL.

Thank you everyone for responding. I love all the support we get from each other.