Its been a long time, 6 month annv and HELP

Hey all, I have finally gotten a chance to get on here. Things have been really difficult for quite some time now. I lost my job right after I went back to work after my surgery and my husband was fired a month ago because he has been so sick. We are living on 1400.00 a month with 5 of us and I we have no medical insurance. I believe with all my heart that when things get this tough there is something increadible on the other side. I am down a total of 92lbs, but I must admit I am struggling with eating still. If I try to eat any kind of meat what so ever I throw up, it looks like I may end up a vegetarian. Is that okay to do with my new stomach. I can eat any kind of beans, yogurt, coffee, water, low fat cheese, peppers, lima bean, green beans, salad, whole grain crackers, chili, beans only. So I guess what I am asking is am I going to be okay. Along with that, my depression has been at an all time high, I am not excersising at all, I feel angry a lot, espeically because my husband and family continue to eat crap I cannot have right in front of me and before surgery I used food to fix myself. I have no where to go with my feelings other than to deal with them so I am angry or crying a lot. I am still alone w/o women friends for the most part. I keep trying to get myself on a roll of getting back into church where my friends are, but it is so hard. Lastly, one blessed thing, my mother gave me a trip out to Modesto, Ca, (where I grew up till 8 years ago) to visit my friends, one of which has had an RNY in the last year and a half. So I have a question for you, I am staying with my friend who had the surgery, however, how do I bring up that I cannot eat a lot of what others can. Should I just buy my own food, or be honest and let her know. I don't know which would be more rude or hurt her. Anyway, I am going to get a picture of me up and updated in two weeks. I promise. I have really missed you all I need a lot of support and help so feel free to jump in and give me input. Love Trish

I think your feelings are normal. My family eats what I make so they are all eating better than they used to. There are other ways to get your protein so I wouldn't worry too much about not being able to eat meat! As far as your friend, I would tell her that you are still having a hard time with meat. Be honest. I don't think that is rude or will hurt her feelings.

(((((Patricia))))) Congrats on your weight loss. I think you should just be honest and let her know. She'll understand and I think she'd feel hurt if you DIDN'T tell her the truth. How would you want her to handle this if things were reversed? Y'know? XOXO, ~Brandi

You have a lot on your plate Patricia. I don't think what you are experiencing is depression. I think it's your situation. Who wouldn't feel down and worried when in financial difficulties! I have to tell you though.... even though it is VERY difficult to do, once you get yourself started on some form of exercise, it is like taking drugs! Even if you can get yourself up early before the rest of the family, bundle up and get out for a walk it will help immensely! And it's FREE! And you DO need to get to church so you can be around people and make friends!! FORCE yourself! You will be so much happier in spite of all you have to deal with. I'm glad your Mom gave you that trip. That is a great thing for you. Enjoy every moment and be up front and insistent and PROUD that you have a certain way of eating. Offer to cook and buy your own food. Tell them not to worry about your eating and to continue to do what ever they normally do and not do anything special for you. And then buy, cook and plan your own food. They will understand unless there is something wrong with them and they have their own agenda or are jealous and want to sabotoage your wonderful journey. BTW... there is a group here on OH for vegetarian WLS people. There is no reason you have to have meat. HOWEVER, having said that, those that don't eat meat do have to work harder at getting their protein in. But there are SOOO many protein drinks out there that you can certainly get all you need using them. I'm so glad to see you post. I have also been AWOL from this group but I am back now and happy to see everyone and all the success!!!! Whooo HOOOO! Hugs, Marianne C.