6 months
I hit my six month anniversary yesterday. I have lost 90+ pounds.
I went to a small get together of about six couples. We had pizza, salad, beer and wine. I got there late and ate my usual amount of food and only had water. I felt strangely odd.
Not beause of the amount of food I ate but because very few people have commented about my weight loss. Is it becuase I had weight loss surgery?
I do not hide the fact that I have had surgery but only disclose it if asked. Is this a normal reaction? I live in a relatively small town and people talk.
It was the pink elephant sitting on the couch scene. We all know the pink elephant is there but no one will recognize it.
I think i still deserve some recognition for losing the wieght. I feel cheated. I suppose people think I took the easy way out. It stinks.
I had one small chocolate covered pretzel and I felt the people in the room gasp!!!
As a side note I am 48 and now have an abundance of wrinkles - face and upper arm.
This is new. I did not anticipate the wrinkle issue. I need to keep reminding myself I had the surgery for my health and not my appearance.
Thanks for letting me vent. I have about 45 more pounds to lose to get to my goal weight.
Lorraine
I understand how you feel. I look at pictures and see the older person with all the wrinkles. That was my biggest fear, looking older. I am single and it's been hard to accept this new me. I dated much more when I was fat than I do now. My self esteem is very low and I am sure that is why. I keep on the happy face in public but I am having to work really hard on myself. I know I can do it. Like you I have to keep telling myself I did this to save my life not to look hot. But looking HOT would REALLY be nice.
I know EXACTLY how you feel.
I got a few.....you look good.
You look great.
Like the hair. (I got bangs)
But FINALLY in December I walked into a practice (I work for an insurance company)and got a .............
"Holy CRAP! How much weight have you lost? You look GREAT How did you do it?"
And I told them and wanted to kiss their feet because they said the magic words.
Friends and family who knew me so much better had told me things about I looked good and stuff but no one had ever said the "weight" word.
And it meant everything to me!
But then I think back to before about how grateful I was that no one ever mentioned my weight. That I was lucky and even though I was over weight I was never really picked on about it.
Maybe people were talking behind my back but at least they were always kind to me.
How can I fault those same people if they don't want to come forward now and tell me how big I used to be? It's almost like admitting they were lying before!
I think people *****ally know us just never want us to think our weight was an issue for them. It's a kindness, not an insult.
But I honeslty pray you do get your Holy CRAP moment! Everyone here deserves one!!!!
It's a fantastic feeling.
Just try not to feel bad about people not saying nothing now, especially if they were kind to you BEFORE the weight loss. To some people, I really believe it never mattered. They always loved us! Big or small.
So why would they say anything?
Hello,
Only one thing I like to add is that we all took a proactive step to fix a problem in our lives. The fat suits were latterly killing us in many ways. No one really knows all the hoops that we needed to jump thru, all the diet programs we had to follow, the endless Dr appts and the getting sick if we eat more than a few ounces now. By no means have we taken the easy way out, we have taken the only way proven to work.
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