interesting, i've had so many people encourage me, however have dealt with ugly remarks all my llife by family and "friends". Recently I changed jobs, and the new office knows I had bypass cause one girl i work with married a friend of mine. She's a big girl, and is contantly making remarks like: those of you that had their 'weightproblem" fixed by a surgeon think you're on easy street, but you can still have a heart attack etc and just cause you're careful about what you eat doesn't maek you healthy, it's just easier for you... I finally turned around and said " if you think that the surgery I had was easy, or if this is easy now, you are sadly mistaken, and you like to watch everything i eat so you see that I am very careful, so watch whaqt you say, they actually were making fun of a woman that apparently was found dead in front of her fridge this week and her overweight son dead in the other room, saying things like 300 pounds? they needed a crane to get her out of apartment, I wanted to scream would someone please shut them up? My boss was taking part of it, and beleive me my boss and Jessica the one with the mouth, both are over 70 pounds overweight... easily... and there are folks outside my office that weigh over 300 pounds and it's just rude.... I wanted to ask them, so are you saying that if you died in here or got really sick and had to be taken by ambulance that we'd need a crane? but I don't have enough gumption to do it.

how tall are you? how much do you exercise? how much do you weigh, my doc/nutritionist have me doing 100...

Sorry! I've never even heard of it. How much iron do you take daily?

OH my gosh!!!! I feel the same way!!! I dropped from 268 to 193 in 13 months and I'm in the same boat that you are in. I KNOW what I should be doing but I just can't get motivated to do it!!!! I feel like a FAILURE.....I read all the people that have been a sucess and then I look at myself and and feel like a total failure at this!!!! Where I live we have no support groups and I don't know of anyone else who has had this procedure!!! ALONE in the big world of weight loss!!! Good luck to you!!!

omg did you read my mind or what...ok so atleast we know we arent crazy and all alone. I cant explain to others what I feel...they just simply dont understand... I drink coke zero now...all the time...I snack on carbs...eat sugar...dont exercise...etc. I however do eat 2 flintstone vitamins every day (they sit on my desk)...my labs are PERFECT which makes no sense at all...I dont take B12, iron...wasnt drinking my protein...nothing.... I have chronic back pain that not one single doctor can figure out, so Im upset about that...then my scale started going UP...I usually hover around 153 and last week it went to 162! I flipped out! Mind you I was out of my water pills and on prednisone for my back but it shocked me straight! I refilled my water pills and began drinking my protein again..I bring it to work and that way I have no excuse not to drink it....Im back down to 153 now...but I know that is not going to budge until I commit to daily exercise and start BEHAVING! I promised God if he would allow me to be given this gift I would respect it and never stray...well....Im flat out breaking that promise! Im stressed over money and my job...so I feed that...just like in the past...and now Im scared to death...what if I screw this up and regain this weight. I understand that I should be tickled to death to be a sixe 8/10, but what I see when I look in the mirror is not my 22 I was but I see like a 14/16... Im like you I catch glimpes of my face and Im like OMG I have seen "her" in 19 years but Im not HAPPY.... do I mourn my old self...what is it! Why are we mentally screwed up! Will we ever level out and be content with our new selfs. Im beginning to think I need some meds for depression but I wonder if it revolves around my current back pain. Im going to wait and see if the two are connected. They seem now to think that my back pain could be due to my weight loss..that I am carrying myself differently...who knows...I have had every test ran known to man and all comes back perfect...they say Im the healthiest bypass patient they have ever seen! Well Yippee...I know I should feel good about that but Im in pain...and How the heck are all my labs perfect when I dont do anything I am suppose to...but eat 2 flintstones.....shouldnt my B12, iron, etc be OFF. Ugh Im a mess.