I'm sure this will probably cause trouble, but I have to discuss this situation. It's bothered me all weekend. About a month ago, I posted a thread on the main board. My husband was worried about his first wife's weight. He was wondering if he sould discuss it with her. Most people felt it would do more harm than good, hurt her feelings, to say anything. I shared this with him. Come to find out, a friend of my husband's first wife frequents this board. She knows who I am, and who I'm married to. I have no idea who she is. She decided to send the thread to 1st wife. My understanding is this would not be the first time she's discussed my posts with 1st wife. Needless to say, first wife called hubby; a discussion was had. I'm not upset about that. It upsets me that if this individual was a friend of the 1st wife's, why would she send her information that most people felt would hurt her feelings? I'm also a little ticked that this lead to my DH reading all my posts. Yes, this is a public board. I get strength from sharing with the people who have already been where I am going. I'm not ashamed of anything I've posted. If anything I've gone through can help another individual then I've happy anything I've posted is available. However, it seems like this incident of sharing, violates the spirit of the board. Neither my husband, nor his first wife, have any interest in WLS. Because this is a public board, I have no expectation of privacy, but it just feels wrong. Thanks for listening. I had to share, and feel much closer to you guys on the August 05 board. Torrey (281/184/160)

Hi All, I made one year while in Cabo San Lucas Mexico. I will post some photos this weekend when I get some time. My Story: I was always thin. Not skinny and I had to watch my weight it went up and down. From 130 to 160 depending on how I was eating and exercising. Then at 32 I became pregnant and gained a ton of weight and the father of my child was 9 years younger then myself and really made me feel bad about myself. It was a hard time. I went through the pregnancy by myself and when the baby was born I put on the Birth Certificate under the father part Withheld. He has never been a good father to her or helped us out in any way she is now 12 years old. In all of this I lost myself. I became lonely never dating, I gained weight and became fat and ugly. I love to go to tropical places and lay around in a bathing suit and no longer felt comfortable doing that. I stopped skiing in the winter because I was afraid that if I fell on ski's I would not be able to get up. I just pretended to be happy but deep inside longed for love. I had my child and that is what kept me going. I could not exercise, every diet failed. On August 25 , 2005 I had my gastric By-pass. I have lost 105 pounds still twenty to go. This year my life has changed. I met the love of my life and soul mate about 6 months after surgey. No longer lonely. I just returned from Cabo were I ran around in my bikini all week long went snorkeling. I will snow ski this winter. I ran my first ever 5k with out walking. I do spinning classes as much as possible and weight training. I just purchased a time share in Cabo San Lucus so I can go there every year. I am going to Hawaii in April. Life is wonderful and I do get stomach aches and gas since surgery probably more than I ever have. It is all worth it. I am happy in love and life is good. I will work hard to keep this lifestyle and never go back to the way it was over one year ago. Diana 263/155/140

YIPEE! WOW! Way to go Sheree! Sounds like you have had a life altering year. Best wishes to you during this next year. Cam

Congratulations! Checked out your profile! You look GREAT! WAY TO GO! I too, just had my weight loss anniversary. I have lost 134 pounds since my surgery (August 27,2005) and 156 pounds since my highest pre-surgery weight of June 2005! It is amazing how much can happen in 1 year! Congratulations! Cam

Hey Donna, hang in there. I understand about TOM. I have always been one to eat just before I start my period. At first after this surgery, that went away, but I find now that I want to graze more before. Also, my desire for chocolate just before has returned. Got to have it -- so get sugar free at least. Not lower in calories, but doesn't make me sick. Also, before I had surgery, I was starting menopause -- hot flashes, periods every month but some heavy some very light, night sweats, etc. After surgery, all my symptoms stopped and my periods were 'normal' again. But, here at 1 year out, I am starting to get the sweats again and I know my moods have been swinging some. I warned my husband that he had better watch his step! Anyways, I had heard that estrogen is stored in fat cells and when you "explode" or shrink all those cells with quick weight loss, the estrogen floods back into your body. One of the reasons that women get pregnant after having this surgery if they are not careful! I have always figured that is why my menopause symptoms got better for a while. But they seem to be starting back now with a vengence. Oh well. I understand the part about your son, I have one that is 22 and is not going back to college... desparately wants to move out on his own, but doesn't make enough money to do that. He has been miserable and is making me a wreck in the process. Thinking about joining the service (US Marines is his branch of choice) or the police department. I am just trying to take a deep breath and deal with whatever comes. Stay on the journey! you are doing great. Get back to exercise and eating right. Everyone has an off day/week. I sure have! Eileen 337/202/160-170ish