Feeling Very Emotional

Hi Everyone. This is my weekend before my surgery on 1/25. I planned on cleaning today, but instead I felt like I was in another world. I had a few episodes of crying. Please say this is normal. I am excited one minute then I am scared and thinking of calling the whole thing off. I had some of my close cousins call me today, and telling me they dont want me to have this procedure because they are very scared for me. I feel like I neither here nor there. Someone please put me at ease!!

Hi Lorraine! If you weren't feeling this emotional, you wouldn't be normal. I too had family that didn't want me to have it done, but once my mind was made up, it was made up. I told them that if I didn't die in surgery, I was going to die from being fat - only much more slowly. I'm sure you'll do fine! I was crying, fearful, happy, excited, apprehensive, and tense as were all of us. Read my profile and I updated the night before my surgery. I never went to sleep that night! You will do great though, trust me! Clarissa 346/238/150

Hi Lorraine, You're quite normal (at least from my point of view ). It's a shame your cousins called the weekend before surgery. Very selfish of them to add to your concern to try and get you to cancel. Of course they're afraid, it's a major surgery, but this wasn't the time to express it. I went through the same thing, but decided it was like pre-wedding nerves. A friend of mine whose mother-in-law is going through the process flipped when she was told. She told her mother-in-law that she wanted her to be around when they had grandbabies. The response was "That's WHY I'm having the surgery." Good luck! Dawn 258/157/135

Hi - You are very normal! I was so emotional the weeks before surgery...When we got to the hospital and asked my name I burst into tears. All I could do was cry and shake. They finally had me wait with my husband and daughter. I was so afraid I woudn't wake up! Bit I did. I had no problems whatever, am doing GREAT now, 5 months out today. I have gone from 260 to 183, 77lbs. gone forever. My diabetes has disappeared, I look great, and feel even better. I have energy. We go to the gym. I have a life that is fun again. It is the best thing I have ever done for me and my family. Hang in there - you will do fine! My thoughts and prayers are with you for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery. Keep in touch so we know how you're doing! Love, Laura

Lorraine, You've done the right thing by coming on this board for support. You're normal to feel the emotions you are feeling. For the next few days leading up to your surgery, please try to surround yourself with people that support you in this decision. It won't make all the fears go away, but it will put you somewhat at ease. Remember "The other side of Fear is FAITH". You're where you are supposed to be. Maybe people are seeing a different side of you (as in you doing this for yourself) and that's making them nervous. I'll keep you in my thoughts & prayers for a uneventful surgery & speedy recovery. Remember, we're all here for you. Come & vent whenever you need to. Keep us posted Tammy 291/284/213/145

Lorraine, You are so normal. I did the exact same thing. Even went as far as writing good bye letters to my 5 children and my husband. My mom was my second guesser. She was so scared for me that she didn't even go to the hospital the day I had surgery and didn't come see me until the day I was getting out. She was so against the surgery that every time I seen her she would cry and tell me how wrong I was for doing it this way. She now is one of my biggest supporters and has become an advocate for WLS. Put this in God's hands and he will take care of you. My prayers are with you and you will do just fine. Rocquetta 333/248/175