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Hi Tammy! I'm here! I didn't have internet access while I was gone so wasn't able to update.
My surgery went relatively well, although I received very little care at the hospital so ended up being re-admitted about a week later with pneumonia and dehydration. It's been a rough couple of weeks. I am still in a lot of pain, lots of nausea, but at least I'm home. I had stayed with a friend for the week and a half after surgery since the hospital is 3 hours from my apartment.
I finally told my parents. It's actually funny what happened. My mother, even though she has belittled me for my weight for my entire life....is 85 years old. I had lived in Florida for several years before having to move back here a year or so ago. So it's been several years since I have told her something like this and she ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS would just about go into a rage.
Anyway, this time, when I told them, she just let it register, asked a couple of questions and then went on talking about HER ailments, which seems to be her only interest these days.
I was kind of let down in a way. 
I was thinking, well, a LITTLE sympathy would have been nice. However, I'm glad it didn't phase her that much. Daddy....well, you never really know what he's thinking because if he opens his mouth, Mama tells him to shut up and continues talking about her ailments. He did tell me if I needed anything to let him know....he's such a sweetheart.
Anyway, it went well, and I told them yesterday. Yesterday was my birthday so I had gone over there and they had the KFC family dinner meal thing and I had to explain why I couldn't eat anything except the creamed potatoes. They even had me a huge birthday cookie with my name on it. I was very tired and didn't feel like a birthday party at all. I had just gotten home from Birmingham about 10pm on Saturday night and then the birthday party was at noon on Sunday. Since it was MY birthday party, I had to go.
I'm sure there will be more questions from my mother as she mulls it over, but at least the "telling" has been done.
I am still in a lot of pain, but hope that will get better. I'm having trouble with foods because of the nausea and also because I don't like sweet stuff so the sweet protein drinks are making me want to hurl. Creamed potatoes are going to be my salvation, I think. I am just going to have to add a lot of unflavored protein powder. Also refried beans will be good with some sour cream, although I don't have any sour cream and can't get to the store right now. I miss having my friend with me! She was always running errands, running to get my stuff, doing my laundry, bringing me chicken broth, etc. It's nice to be alone and have my privacy again, but it will be a while before I can get out to get groceries. I am going to just have to drink those protein drinks.
I have to find a lab tomorrow and have my hematacrit levels checked. The doctor had told me Saturday that I could go home then he came back and said I should probably stay another day and have a blood transfusion, but since I wanted to be home for my birthday, he agreed to let me take iron supplements for a couple of days and then go get my hematacrit levels checked and faxed to him, so here's hoping they will get regulated. I have very extensive bruising on my stomach where he did a liver biopsy, so all my blood is going there to repair that.
I have had a couple of moments here and there that remotely resemble energy. They are fleeting, but I am looking forward to having some more as time goes on, as I get my system back to normal.
I have only lost about 7 lbs. but I am okay with that since it's not a competition and with me, it's not about the weight loss....it's about my health. And hey, I'm not going to quibble about ANY weight I lose. If I weigh over 350 lbs. and FEEL GOOD, then I will consider this surgery a huge success, but I know I will lose weight. It's just hard to grasp that part yet.
I appreciate your asking about me Tammy!
And I appreciate all the terrific emails I received from everyone about my family dilemma.
Love,
Joni
I was thinking, well, a LITTLE sympathy would have been nice. However, I'm glad it didn't phase her that much. Daddy....well, you never really know what he's thinking because if he opens his mouth, Mama tells him to shut up and continues talking about her ailments. He did tell me if I needed anything to let him know....he's such a sweetheart.
Anyway, it went well, and I told them yesterday. Yesterday was my birthday so I had gone over there and they had the KFC family dinner meal thing and I had to explain why I couldn't eat anything except the creamed potatoes. They even had me a huge birthday cookie with my name on it. I was very tired and didn't feel like a birthday party at all. I had just gotten home from Birmingham about 10pm on Saturday night and then the birthday party was at noon on Sunday. Since it was MY birthday party, I had to go.
I'm sure there will be more questions from my mother as she mulls it over, but at least the "telling" has been done.
I am still in a lot of pain, but hope that will get better. I'm having trouble with foods because of the nausea and also because I don't like sweet stuff so the sweet protein drinks are making me want to hurl. Creamed potatoes are going to be my salvation, I think. I am just going to have to add a lot of unflavored protein powder. Also refried beans will be good with some sour cream, although I don't have any sour cream and can't get to the store right now. I miss having my friend with me! She was always running errands, running to get my stuff, doing my laundry, bringing me chicken broth, etc. It's nice to be alone and have my privacy again, but it will be a while before I can get out to get groceries. I am going to just have to drink those protein drinks.
I have to find a lab tomorrow and have my hematacrit levels checked. The doctor had told me Saturday that I could go home then he came back and said I should probably stay another day and have a blood transfusion, but since I wanted to be home for my birthday, he agreed to let me take iron supplements for a couple of days and then go get my hematacrit levels checked and faxed to him, so here's hoping they will get regulated. I have very extensive bruising on my stomach where he did a liver biopsy, so all my blood is going there to repair that.
I have had a couple of moments here and there that remotely resemble energy. They are fleeting, but I am looking forward to having some more as time goes on, as I get my system back to normal.
I have only lost about 7 lbs. but I am okay with that since it's not a competition and with me, it's not about the weight loss....it's about my health. And hey, I'm not going to quibble about ANY weight I lose. If I weigh over 350 lbs. and FEEL GOOD, then I will consider this surgery a huge success, but I know I will lose weight. It's just hard to grasp that part yet.
I appreciate your asking about me Tammy!
And I appreciate all the terrific emails I received from everyone about my family dilemma.
Love,
Joni Joni
Sorry to hear about the hard time you've had, but remember, things will get better. Make sure you drink drink drink... you don't want to get dehydrated again. Glad to hear that your parents didn't have a negative response to you telling them. I know this was a big issue for you. I think now that you've told them, your recovery will go better. Stress has a major impact on healing.
Good luck with everything & keep us posted.
Tammy
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