"just in case" letters

Do or did most of you write letters to your family, "just in case." I get to be an emotional wreck when I start one. Thanks a lot. Sue

I started on some of mine.. I have two little girls and a hubby overseas... Yeah I got a little emotional, I think its normal.. Melissa

NOPE, no letters just in case. i have faith in the Lord to get me thru this.Yes, I am going under a "very high risk" factor, not just the standard procedure for me due to my health. All I'm gonna do is sign power of attorney to my wife. I have a 3 yr girl, brothers sisters, Dad, countless others. Why go thru it when you don't have to upset yourself. But what ever floats your boat.........hugs & prayer........

I'm not...why tempt fate. I agree though...to each his own. Lynne

I did not, DH was here as was DD#1, DD#2 had just been out for a two week visit. My family knows I love them, and there's not much more for me to say to them...we talk daily as it is.

Sue, I did write a couple, one to my family, the other to my best friend in the whole world - Aaron, and to Aaron's brother Jordan. As another person said, my family knows that I love them, but I think that if something were to happen, they might want that closure and something to hold on to, ya know? As far as Aaron is concerned, he knows that I will love him always and would marry him in a heartbeat, but I want to make sure that if we never get that opportunity, that he knows. For the last 3 years or so, I have been writing letters to my future husband, so he knows that I've always been thinking of him, and those I want Aaron to have too. Jordan and I also have a special bond, not only through Aaron, but I am very close to him, and he and Aaron's parents, so I wanted them to know how much I love and appreciate them as well. But...I didn't tell any of them that I wrote the letters. The only person that knows is Aaron's mom, and if the need arises, she knows where they are (my bedside drawer), and everyone will read them then. But, if they aren't needed, which I'm sure they aren't...well....no harm done, right? Either way, it's God's will to take me, whether I am on a surgery table or out walking my dog. If it's my time it's my time. Nothing I can do can change that. So, have faith, and all will work together for good. Trust God, He's got His reasons. Lotsa Luv! Sara

I had thought about it...but everytime i thought about what I was gonna write i would tear up...so i never did do it... Im 11 days post op and feeling great so i didnt need them!

I didn't. I did do a living will. I just couldn't make myself write letters, the whole thought of it depressed me to tears. In the end it was easier to give them lots of hugs and kisses and tell them how much I loved them. All the way to the hospital I kept going over what I wanted done for the kids with my husband. (Which was hard enough for him in itself.)

thank you everyone who has responded. It has really helped me a lot. I dont think I will do the letters. Emotionally I cant do it. I do have the living will set up so I will be just fine. Thanks again.

Hi Sue! Easier said than done! I told myself that I was going to do letters, and planned on it, but when I got down to actually writing them, I lost it every time. I'm emotional as it is anyway, crying over simple Hallmark commercials and the like, so you can just imagine! And these days, being that my surgery is only 12 days away, I find myself breaking down into tears at different times of the day for no apparent reason, other than me thinking about the damn surgery all day long! It's terrible how the mind works! I had my attorney do a will, living will, and power of attorney, so I'm all set legally if something were to happen. However, I'm beginning to think more and more that I'll be just fine. I have hope, especially after seeing so many people post onto this site that they're home and they're doing just fine. Plus, I have a helluva lot to live for, now AND after I lose all this weight!!! And thank God for my support system...my hubby, my mom, my best friend of 18+ years who is serving our country in Iraq as we speak, and a couple of really close friends who I told about the surgery. God Bless You and my thoughts and prayers are with you for a successful and uneventful surgery! Wendy