whats the deal??????????????/

YOu would think me and my husband would be in total marital bliss, but it seems like this week we keep starting fusses with each other. We love each other so much and I know we are both just starting to get the jitters, all I want to do is curl up on the sofa in his arms and him tell me its all going to be ok, and he is just scared for me, and blah blah blah........... is anyone else going thru this.

Yep - sounds like our house. My surgery is next Monday. My Husband is shutting down - doesn't want to talk to me OR the kids. Started last weekend on our trip to Mo. to pick up our kids from camp. He was disappointed because a ballgame got rained out and because the kids were demanding attention. He had the surgery 15 months ago, and knows what I am going through, and says he has been there and since he did it, I can too and he doesn't want to hear about it. Sooooo I started the liquid diet yesterday. I was hungry and kinda miserable, but he didn't want to hear about it - just said "I told you it would be hard..." It isn't just the diet - I am scared - I never had surgery before. I am worried that something COULD happen - not that I expect it to. I feel like I have to get all the business things in order in case - and since I do all the financial and kid stuff in the family, tell him everything - he doesn't want to listen. I want to snuggle, he turns on his side. It is as though he is mad at me for doing the surgery for myself. Yet, he says he supports me because it will make me healthier. The drs. said that with my diabetes I wouldn't be here in 10 yrs. That scared the crap out of me! He also says that in a way, he is afraid I will take his limelight - he has lost 220 lbs in the last yr. & we brag about that constantly. I am not telling anyone about the surgery, so I won't be bragging about it. Hopefully people will just think I went on Weigh****cher's or something. I just think he is scared for me & has shut down so I won't know. I just keep loving him, being sweet, and looking to the website for my support right now. They are AWESOME! I may write letters to him and the kids - pretty hard to do. I was sure I would, now I am not so sure. Anyway - just be patient with him and with yourself. Very soon it will be over & you will be on the losing side! That's what I keep telling myself! Hugs!

My surgery is next Tuesday and it sounds like my house. These last two weeks have been very stressful for me, not surgery related. Two of our vehicles broke down, today I had to basically hitch a ride to work, we had my son's 3rd b-day party, running here and there, and then there is work and getting everything ready for being off for two to three weeks and of course things are due the end of Sept. Sooooo... husband and I have been short with each other a lot!!!! I just keep drinking my liquids and taking things as they come. The good news is with all this chaos I have not had a chance to be nervous-yet. Lynne