Hello out there is anyone home? I need a shoulder to lean on......

Hello, This is my second time writing my thoughts and feelings. I am so excited I have been approved after being denied the first time. Dr. Carter is my Dr. I have been scheduled for my surgery for August 3, of this year which is only a few days away. I don't really have any support from my family my husband of 9 years the 27 of this month is has a neutral attitude. I have 2 boys ages 19 and 9. I haven't told my baby yet because so many ?'s will follow. My parents are neutral other friends and family talked me out of it the first time so this time I haven't really told anyone. That is why I need you guys. I am on my liquid protein diet now the first two days i ate less and less then i ate nothing just liquids. I have aches all over my body i weigh 271lbs i hate what i see when i look in the mirror. so i have decided to do something about it for my sake health and personal reasons. I wear size 24. When I was in High school i wore a 14 iam bigboned so i don't want to lose to much if you know what i mean I need to hear from some body. I am a teacher assistant in primary school with kindergarten tell me this want help!!!!!!!!!!!! see ya ! I will keep you informed

congradulations on your up coming surgery!! My date is 8/8!! Good Luck, do everything the doctor says and you will do GREAT!! I will be praying for you!!

Hi Henrietta!! Glad to see ya posted!! U GO GIRL!! get those shoes on!! Congrats! I am really happy for you!! wishing you the best surgery: fast and without complications!! I had posted to your other message..we are paying attention- just a little slow- its Friday-You are one week away from getting your life on track. You are closer than I am, and you have to know in your heart you are doing whats best for you- no one else can do it. Your family may feel threatened a bit, because change challenges status quo and changes emotions..so you keep on going your own way- once you are past surgery, and they see how wonderful you are doing- they will come around..but if they do not- then at least you know- you can support your self and there is nothing wrong with putting your health before anything else.. Good luck and an abundance of gods blessings! Hugs & Blessings! DONNA

Hello Henrietta!! Way to go!! Congrats on your approval and up coming surgery!!! Prayers heading your way for a safe speedy recovery!!You are doing this for you and thats the important part!!The others will come around..and if they dont like she said then you know you can count on YOU!!!Like you I have hated what I see in the mirror for years but you know what I have been dieting and preparing for my surgery..mentally as well as physically as best I can and I am liking what I see in the mirror better and better,lol...I had very long heavy hair ..I always wore it long my whole life fig I needed something half way pretty...but I cut it!!! I feel 10 years younger it looks great I find I have natural curly hair and the looks...OH BOY,lol... k I will stop raving lol....bottom line you do what you got to do to make yourself feel good ok!!! ((HUGS)) keep in touch! Lori

Hey Henrietta! good luck on your upcomming surgery!! I always come here for advice and to talk to people who have been there or who are waiting like us. I like you have not many to talk to about what im about to go through. My date is the 23rd . And i cant wait!!!You are going to do great!!!Remember, we'll all be here for you!!!!CONGRATS! sheree

Hi Henrietta! Just remember, you are doing this for yourself, no one else. You are doing this to add years to your life, and to be healthy and happy! I was just like you a couple years ago...I went through all the motions, chose a surgeon, got the tests, waited for a date. Then Al Roker came out and said he had the surgery, and said that 1 out of 500 die. Well, that was all my mom and husband had to hear...end of subject. "Diet and exercise, diet and exercise" was what I heard, and so I tried it, and failed of course, putting on so many more pounds, and being disgusted with myself. I've always been a big girl, I'm now 315 lbs. and have been teased all my life, ever since I was little. Food was always the main focus in my house, always having to "clean off your plate, children are starving" in whatever country it was at the time. Now I'm 34 years old and wondering to myself how I let myself get to be like this. I have so many aches and pains, not to mention the fact that I can't even bear to look at myself in the mirror anymore. But I'm finally doing something about it, my life, my decision...my date is 8/29. When I first told my mom that I was once again going through with it, she wasn't happy because she's scared that I'll die on the table or won't come out of it...I'm her only child, so you can just imagine the conversation! But after I explained to her the reasons, and brought her to a support group that my surgeon has every month, and she was able to hear how happy people were that they were finally able to walk without pain and without being out of breath, without people looking at them, and just being so much more healthy, she finally understood why. The husband was another story! We've been together for 15 years, married for 8 years this December, and he was totally against it. He's a normal size (if there is such a thing!) and was with me when I was a big girl. I'm on his insurance, and he was so against it, that he said that he was going to call his insurance company and tell them to deny me the approval!!! I tried dragging him to a support group, but he wouldn't come. But I forged on, getting my tests, talking about it little by little with him. Finally, he came home one day and said that he supports me, and asked me what I need for him to do for me? I told him that he just did...support me. And to take the week of my surgery off because I will need him. And for my birthday on 7/15, he gave me a credit card and said that after the surgery, if I need special food, gym membership, clothes, that I can use the credit card and he will pay for me to have those things. I couldn't believe it, a total turn-around. Don't ask me what finally shifted in his head, but let me tell you, I'm so happy it happened! My friends are totally behind me, and can't wait to see me on the other side! Henrietta, you have support here...I wish you the best of luck honey! Please remember to come back online after you come home and feel up to it so we can chat! Take care! Wendy