Invasion of Privacy?

I'm sure this will probably cause trouble, but I have to discuss this situation. It's bothered me all weekend. About a month ago, I posted a thread on the main board. My husband was worried about his first wife's weight. He was wondering if he sould discuss it with her. Most people felt it would do more harm than good, hurt her feelings, to say anything. I shared this with him. Come to find out, a friend of my husband's first wife frequents this board. She knows who I am, and who I'm married to. I have no idea who she is. She decided to send the thread to 1st wife. My understanding is this would not be the first time she's discussed my posts with 1st wife. Needless to say, first wife called hubby; a discussion was had. I'm not upset about that. It upsets me that if this individual was a friend of the 1st wife's, why would she send her information that most people felt would hurt her feelings? I'm also a little ticked that this lead to my DH reading all my posts. Yes, this is a public board. I get strength from sharing with the people who have already been where I am going. I'm not ashamed of anything I've posted. If anything I've gone through can help another individual then I've happy anything I've posted is available. However, it seems like this incident of sharing, violates the spirit of the board. Neither my husband, nor his first wife, have any interest in WLS. Because this is a public board, I have no expectation of privacy, but it just feels wrong. Thanks for listening. I had to share, and feel much closer to you guys on the August 05 board. Torrey (281/184/160)

Torrey, Sorry to hear you're going through this. Personally, I don't feel that you did anything wrong. I don't think there's any better place to ask a general "weight issue" question, than on a board which hosts thousands of people that know what it's like to have a weight problem. You didn't mention any names, therefore, for the most part, nobody knew who you were talking about. It does kind of suck that you know your information is most likely being shared as well. You know what, though, if they don't have anything better to do than to keep track of your life, then that's pretty sad. I would continue doing what you're doing. Don't allow this person to stand in your way of success & if posting on here is helping you be successful, post on, girl, post on.... We're always here for you. Tammy 284/183/164