Happy Anniversary, even if my surgeon didn't think so!

Hi August Buddies, I promised that I would post about my visit to my surgeon on my one year anniversary on some other posts I made this past week. Well, I did not have a good day of reflection because I was so concerned about what my surgeon was going to say to me. I only lost 9 lbs in the 3 months since I had seen him and he wasn't very happy about it at all. He just kept saying, "Your eating too much." I even agreed with him that I probably was, yet he kept hammering away at me. He said that most doctors would consider me a success story because I have lost almost half my weight from a year ago, but he doesn't consider me a success. I thought to myself, "Why am I putting up with this crap?" I didn't have this surgery to make him happy, I had this surgery to get myself healthy and I have more than accomplished that goal for myself. One year ago: I could barely walk without severe pain from hanging stomach & access weight causing back ache and feet to hurt. I had diabetes, severe high blood pressure, & high cholesterol. I didn't like the outside me very much. I was worried every day that this was going to be my last day on earth...kept dreaming that I would not wake up if I went to sleep. Sonring was awful, although I was never diagnosed with sleep apnea, I knew I was close to it. Today: Walking is no problem No more diabetes, blood pressure is normal w/reduced meds, cholesterol is normal Love the new me Fall to sleep with ease and no worrys anymore. Don't fear I'm going to die if I go to sleep. Snoring problem is much better, not gone, but much better. I've lost 94 pounds so far and that is amazing. In March 2005 when I was approved for surgery, I thought I'll start to loose now, but by surgery date, I gained 3 more pounds. What I'm trying to say is, nothing has been as successful for me in loosing weight before. I would do this surgery over again in a minute. I would probably use the same surgeon, but I would not continue to take his abuse and negetive thinking on for myself. I am suppose to see him in December, but I will more then likely call and say I'm done. I'll let my PCP take over my case, he has been great!! and very supportive. Thanks for listening, Lori 293/199/135

Ms. Lori! I am sorry your surgeon is such a bonehead! According to my calculations, that's 55% of your excess weight! That's amazing! And you know what?? You will CONTINUE to lose weight with this surgery! You won't automatically stop at 1 year post op. Not gonna happen. I say, don't go back to him unless you have a surgery related issue. Your PCP sounds like he is on the ball. I believe that your surgeon is NOT being supportive of you. How many times have we been told in our life that "you are eating too much", "just cut down on your food and you will lose weight!" ????? I am sorry, but when someone uses "tough love" to get me to do ANYTHING, I totally rebel. Being condescending and talking down to someone, is NOT helpful! How about trying to be supportive and encouraging? I think you are doing great! You are just one of the slower losers. I have completely stopped losing anything the last week. I believe that I am gonna have to really fight to get off these last 26lbs. I may never get them off. But the key is, KEEP TRYING! Don't give up because of something some jerkface said! Keep your chin up girl! You will succeed! And CELEBRATE how far you have come!!! Lori

Hey Lori, Thanks for the words of encouragement. I should have come here sooner to ready your post because as you said, I have been in rebel mode and grazing like crazy since seeing him yesterday. So it is time to put on the brakes and get rid of this attitude that he creates in me and keep going for myself! No more letting this jerk get to me. I need to fight back for myself and not fall into the bull he is giving me. Thanks for the reality check, girlfriend. I really need it today!! Lori

YOU GO WITH YOUR BAD SELF GIRLFRIEND!!! You deserve so much more. My surgeon got on my case at my 3 month checkup. He said that I was behind what other people had lost at that point. Said I needed to really watch myself if I wanted to lose all my weight. Well poo poo on him! I have lost almost all of it! Glad to give you a reality check! ANYTIME YOU NEED IT, I AM HERE! Lori

HIJACK _ I just wanna stick my 2c in- I totally agree with Lorlee, Lori. You have a bonehead for a surgeon- who seems like he does great surgery- but has the insensitive bone stuck in his bedside manner derriere..ask him how come he hasn't that surgically removed? Must be painful walking around with it..LOL I m also not done losing weight- and am doing everything I can think of to lose- and I did lose 6lbs this past week- but it was a temp weight gain- and I havent been back on the scale yet- I will scream if it went up again. LOL. It seems to "normal off" when I stop working out for 2 days- so Im not sure what is p- but I do see results with inches- Ive been targeting my ABS and my tummy with Stairmaster cardio- and I'm liking the way I fit inside my 2 pc bathing suits and these size L Yoga pants I bought at Target..If my tummy shows a little when I workout or swimming- I just don't care- and don't you care what that bonehead surgeon says- unless its something surgical. Hugs Donna

sorry to say this, but what a jerk!!!! that's 94 more pounds than you've lost before and look at all the things you can do now. i definitely wouldn't go back and see him. you're doing great and keep up the good work! Lisa B 226/142/???

Thanks, Lisa. I don't know why I need to seek his approval. I've always looked to others for approval and I certainly need to take my own advise to others and let his comments go. You have really been a boost to my soul today! Thanks, Lori