My sister told me I look old...

Lori... that's just bullsh*t. I know how unsupportive people are, especially my family. I was always the fat one, from childhood on up and now I'm not. It really doesn't bother me, because I've never been all that close to my family. But still, it can hurt and I understand that. I am happy with myself, so f**k everyone else You look awesome!! Congrats! Clarissa 346/217/150

Clarissa, I knew there was a reason I liked you so much! You have such a great attitude! And a smartass to boot! I LOVE IT!!! Lori

Lori - I feel your pain. I think I'm going to get a tattoo that reads, "Skinny B*tch". That's how much I hear it. I've come to the point now where I'm just like, either you're going to be with me or get the hell off the boat. You look amazing and I'm sure you're an amazing person on the inside, maybe that's why they're jealous, you're the total package. Continue to do you and if they don't like it, oh well.

Keisha, You skinny beyotch you! I hear that too and I am not even near skinny! Thanks for the compliments! You ROCK! Lori

Lori, Sorry to hear you have to go through this. The last thing we want is our family to be anything but supportive & proud of our success throughout this journey. I think you're hearing their own insecurities & you know what????? That's NOT your responsibility to deal with. They need to deal with that themselves. I know I said the same thing to someone else that was have husband issues, but it's true. We are not responsible of the way others are feeling about our success. You are doing awesome... You look beautiful. Don't let anyone's words bring you down. Be proud of yourself & your accomplishments. I say GO FOR IT & pass them all by..... ........... Everone's success or failure is ultimately up to them. You are a wonderful person, with a wonderful, loving personality and if they don't want to take advantage of that, it's THEIR LOSS..... I'm your long lost sister & I still love you Take Care & Remember we're always here for you ((((((HUGS))))) Tammy

Well I didn't come out here yesterday and I want to say your sister was not very nice. I , however, think I look older and younger. I think I look younger more slim and sexy, but since my face has lost lots of weight I feel I show more wrinkles. I notice that the fat in my face was sort of like collagen. I think that everyone looks younger and less frumpy when we lose weight. Some of the ladys at work that are years ahead of me looked older and maybe sick looking for a while in thier face and then after a while they looked healthy and younger with out surgery. So like all parts maybe are face skin has to do some catching up and firming. No matter what your sister probably is jealous and you look wonderful and so does everyone else. Diana

Hi Lori, You look wonderful, let them say and think what they like. I have had that problem with a couple of people, but it's all about how we feel about ourselves. You are doing great, Keep up the good work Joyce

Lori, honey, I'm sorry this is happening to you....from what I've heard at my support groups this scenario is pretty tipical. I personally have more positive experience with friends and family (my skinny, very beautiful, and full of grace little sister included). I've heard nothing but complements and supportive comments from family and friends.... it's people who are not very close to me that I found to be more jelalous and resentful. Honestly I don't think that the problem itself is in your weight loss... it's deeper than just that with families. I hope you don't get too consumed by it and remain positive to enjoy your great success. You have lots to celebrate about yourself....let them brine in their green envy.... that's what makes people look and feel older.... not the weight loss. hugs to you Rita

Families can suck at times, add jealousy and it is not a pretty picture. My family was so negative about this surgery before I got it. No interest in my 3.5 years of research or even my reasons. Change to the status quo is very threatening. I bet your sister is feeling threatened and the best thing is to ignore her and whatever issues she has at the moment. I saw my pyschiatrist yesterday. He's been my doc for years but also does a lot of pre WLS evaluations. I was discussing my recent troubles with my DH, and he said many people gain the weight back, not to deal with adverse reactions they get from their loved ones. I know I thought about it when I was fight with DH. You, we all, need to do what's best for us. Everyone else can deal with it in their own way and their own time. - Torrey (291/193/160)