OT: Update from Monday

Hi August Buddies, Just thought I would update you all with my bold move of asking my client out. He arrived at the office and we talked for a few moments before my boss came to greet him. Then after the meeting my boss left (to give me time to be alone with him). We went over the rest of his information from the meeting and just before he was going to walk out the door, I asked him. I said, "I don't know if you are dating right now, but if you would ever like to, I would really enjoy going out with you." He was very sweet but let me know he has been seeing someone for 13 months right now. To say that I felt foolish was an understatement, but I have had time to get over the shock of not knowing. ( I still can't believe in all our conversations that was never mentioned.) On Wed. he called to see if I was doing alright and talk to my boss. I thought that was really a wonderful gesture and still think the world of him. I don't know if I should hold out any hope but just hearing from him was a big pick me up after feeling so foolish. We were both the same and there was no tension in our conversation at all. We even talked about what we were doing this weekend. It is the most interesting and frustrating thing in the world to me. I still feel like I am always just going to be seen as the guy's friend, never the girlfriend. I'm glad I asked, but I don't know if I will put myself out there like that again. Thanks for all the encouragement from everyone. You've been great! On a fantastic note. I weighed in today at 202.5 so I am 3 pounds from being in onederland and 9.5 pounds to century club. I am so excited. I've also noticed that my image in the mirror is smaller and my stomach is shrinking. I had a little boy (friend of the family) playing with my batwings last night. I could have been insulted, but instead we had fun and laughed our heads off. His parents were mortified at first, but I just laughed it off as part of the journey and one day know it will be gone forever with PS. Have a wonderful weekend my friends and here's to this amazing journey!! Lori 293/202.5/135/130

Ms. Lori, I am sorry about what happend but only because you felt so badly. AT LEAST YOU DIDN'T LET YOUR NERVES GET THE BEST OF YOU!!!!! You didn't chicken out and that is a huge huge step!!! You got the worst out of the way and now there will be no stopping you!!! Don't think of this as a let down. Think of it as a step in the right direction for the new you! You would never have done this before losing almost 100lbs! I know you say you felt foolish but don't. You are a beautiful woman and there is a man out there for you. You are going to use this experience to help you get over the anxiety of "always being the friend". You never know until you ask or try. And you did it! Be proud of that! And you still have a good friend! And he knows that you are interested in "that way". I am sure that gave him a huge ego boost too. And the fact that he called to ask how you were doing is awesome! He, I am sure, was very flattered and respects you enough to tell you the truth. Life is unpredictable. You never know what the future holds. Keep looking towards that horzion and realize that you have the whole world at your feet. Just ready to explore. Keep up the good work girl! You are doing AWESOME! Lori

Hi Lori, Thanks so much for your encouragement. You are one of the best people at helping others get out of "blue funks" and thinking of having a good friend for life is better then tension from asking. I also hadn't thought of the ego boost I gave him as well. Thanks for putting it that way and I am beginning to feel proud of asking instead of not knowing. I really appreciate your words of kindness, Lori. You are terrific!! Lori 293/202/135/130

Oh Honey! You always have a way of making me feel so good too! I think you are one terrific lady yourself! You are so kind and gentle. FEEL PROUD!!! You should be. Look at how far you have come! I feel very privileged to be able to make you feel better and to give you encouragement. I calls them as I sees them!!! Take care and have a wonderful day!!! Lori 281/180/140 40 lbs from goal!

Hey Lori! Sorry to hear about the guy. And atleast it's better that you know. Don't feel bad, I have terrible luck with guys, espcially here lately. Sometimes I feel like I'll always be the friend and never the girlfriend. But - It's all good - our luck will change one of these days! Congrats on your weight loss! Clarissa 346/218/150

Hi Clarissa, Thanks so much for the encouragement. I appreciate it. I has helped me to refocus and be positive about who I am now and who I am becoming. Lori 293/202/135/130

Lori, Good for you that you had the courage & more importantly the Self Confidence to approach him.... That's wonderful. Sorry to hear he's already seeing someone. You never know, though, maybe deep down he's got feelings for you that he was unaware of until you brought it up. You may have opened a new door. At any rate, you have a wonderful friend. That was so sweet of him to call you on Wednesday to see how you were doing. Great friendships are hard to find. I know you would rather it turned out the other way, but like Lori said.... you may have opened the door to the new you. Don't give up, there's an awesome man out there for you. When you least expect it, he'll be standing in front of you. Great job on your weight loss... You'll be under 200 before you know it.... Funny with the batwings.... I joke about mine all the time... Maybe some day I'll have the courage to get rid of them... Just seems so darn painful. Who knows Take care Tammy

Hi Tammy, Thanks so much for your words of encouragment and kindness. I never thought that so many people would be so full of great advice and concern for me, but this forum is the best. I know that I will always be cheered up and on whenever something negetive happens by all the wonderful folks on this site. I have decided not to give up and to keep my eyes open for other oportunities for dating. I have never asked a guy out before and now that I've done it once, I believe I will do better next time. Although the batwings are a tremendous area of concern for me, I must admit that children have a wonderful way of helping us to see the funny things in life. It was a real interesting way of making fun of the least favorite part of my body at this point. My batwings bother me more then my abdomen and floppy boobs at this point. But that little guy got such pleasure by my not making a big deal of what I least like about myself these days that I couldn't help but enjoy his new "play toy" too! I know now to not take such things as negetives in life. What one considers ugly, someone else finds joy in!! Talk to you soon, Lori 293/202/135/130