Identity Crisis...HELP!!

Hi Amos Family! I am going through a weird time...I have lost 127 pounds in 6 1/2 months so that part is going well and I feel wonderful. However I am weirding out on the fact that so many people don't recognize me any more. I mean I literally avoid people who I recognize and that I haven't seen in a while because I know they won't know who I am. I feel like a real whiner, but it is a serious issue that I am having. I am also weary of the "new Rachel" comments. IT'S STILL ME FOLKS, only slimmer. Anyone else having an identity crisis? My bariatric coordinator (who had the surgery 2 1/2 years ago) told me that we will all go through some really weird mental crap eventually. She also said that we premenopausal women will at some point go through estrogen hell where we want to be left alone and are much less tolerant of things and people. Well sister, I think I am there now. My poor dear hubby must wonder what is up!! Please let me know if you can relate to any or all of these issues. I need some support. Thanks Much & God Bless, Rachel T.

Hi Rachel.... I am in the same boat right now about the hubby part.. no sex drive what so ever... I really hate it... now that I have lost weight I would think I would want to all the time but NOPE.... I dont think I have changed that much look wise... just smaller in body size... I was in 18/20 and now I can wear 8's, 10's or 12's depends on the clothes... Good luck Debra

Hijack.........Boy Debra, I thought it was just me. : Everyone else seems to be feeling the opposite. Even if I showed this to DH, he wouldn't find it comforting. I'm at wits end. My surgeon's nurse said we go through some big time hormonal changes because of the fast drop in weight. I'll say!!

Rachel, I am 95 pounds down and I know what you mean. People still recognize me but they are always making super personal comments and I feel like I MUST be gracious and accept them as compliments when under normal cir****tances they would be just plain rude. I also have observed the horrible difference in the way people treat FAT people as opposed to overweight people. It is cruel. I was literally invisible before and now people can see me. Sometimes it is a little scarey, I got used to hiding behind the weight. Fat prejudice is one of the nastiest behaviors I have observed. On the other hand, it is kind of fun to be acknowledged for my efforts unexpectedly. For example, I swim laps at the gym. Always before I was completely dismissed by the "hard bodies", but the last two times I have been, a young person has greeted me in a collegial fashion, as if to say that we were both working on the same goals. Amazing how such little things can make a person feel like she has entered back into life again. We have escaped the prison, with the help of God, never to return!