Determined to stay positive!

My surgery date is 8/17, I can't believe how close it is getting. People are really starting to dump their negative stuff on me. If one more person says, are you afraid of dying I am going to scream. I of course reply that I am afraid, that is why I am having surgery. At 414 pounds it is only a matter of time. Am I crazy not to be scared? I trust my surgeon, I trust the facility, I trust that all this work isn't in vain. I truly believe that I have been lead down this path for a reason, and am ready to embrace the journey. I even quit smoking, something I thought I would never do. This is that important to me. So I am going to continue to stay positive and focused, not letting anyone bring me down! Thanks for letting me rant....

HI , GOOD LUCK ON YOUR SURGERY , THE NXT TIME SOMEONE ASK YOU ARE YOU AFRAID OF DYING TELL THEM YES, THATS WHY YOU ARE HAVING WLS, BECAUSE WITHOUT IT YOU WOULD DIE .THAT SHOULD SHUT THEM UP . GOD BLESS

You have a wonderful outlook and attitude, Heather. Everyone deals with the prospect of major surgery differently. I think you are headed for a positive journey. My thoughts are with you. Keep your focus on the life ahead of you....I can tell you it is a wonderful place to be. I am 2 yrs and 6 months post op. Never regretted it for a moment.

GOOD LUCK ON SURGERY. AND AS FOR THOSE "ARNT YOU AFRAID TO DIE " PEOPLE. I JUST STARTED TELLING THEM NO. WE ARE STARTING A NEW LIFE WITHOUT ANY OF THAT DIEING CRAP. BLESSINGS ON THE ONES THAT HAVE GONE BEFORE US. BUT TO TELL THE TRUTH WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE SOMETIME . THE ONLY WORRY IS ARE YOU READY FOR THAT NEXT EXPERIENCE. ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. LIKE YOU SAID. WE WILL DIE IF WE KEEP GOING LIKE WE ARE. AND AS THEY RUN ALL THERE TEST ON ME ON THE 17TH I WILL PUT ALL MY ENERGIE INTO THINKING HAPPY THOUGHTS FOR YOU MY HAPPY THOUGHT FOR ME IS THAT PINK SPEGGETIE STRAPED DRESS WITH NO SHOE HORN TO GET ME INTO IT. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR HAPPY THOUGHT. BLEESED BE. ANG(AKA. PMS)

Heather, You are going to do just fine. When folks ask me if i'm afraid to die i just tell them that i am afraid to continue living with all the pain an prejudice that is out there. being fat in our society is horrible and exhausting, i figure that surgery and it's risks have to be better since we get to decide our future. here's to a wonderful future for you. God Bless Deanna

Hi Heather, I am glad that you vented. It is good for the soul. I am having surgery on aug. 11. I have been heavy most of my life and now I am experiencing hope beyond recognition, knowing I will have this surgery. I know how families can be. I wont tell my husbands family at all. Not for a while after my surgery. I am glad you quit smoking and that is so important at this point. I will pray for you and keep in touch with your progress or if you just need to vent. God Bless. Barb Jones

My surgery is monday and I get some of that negative stuff too. I answer it with something I read on one of the posts "Well if I die at least you can say I went down fighting". I thought that was a really good response when I read it. Best wishes Patty