THE CLOSER IT GETS...

THE CLOSER MY SURGERY DATE, AUG 19, GETS, THE MORE NERVOUS I GET AND THE MORE QUESTIONS I HAVE. I HAVE BEEN LURKING FOR A FEW MONTHS AND PLAN ON REVIEWING OTHERS' POSTS TO GET THE ANSWERS TO MOST OF MY QUESTIONS. AS THE TIME GETS NEARER, I GET MORE WORRIED ABOUT THE SURGERY ITSELF BUT MY OVERALL CONCERN IS "WHAT AM I GOING TO USE FOR COPING SKILLS NOW THAT FOOD & UNHEALTHY EATING IS NOT AN OPTION?" THIS WEBSITE IS ENORMOUSLY HELPFUL & SO IS MY SUPPORT GROUP LOCALLY. I AM WNDERING IF INDIVIDUAL THERAPY IS VERY BENEFICIAL TO ANYONE WHO HAS HAD SURGERY.THE THERAPIST WHO DID MY PSYCHOLOGICAL RECOMMENDED THIS TO ME & GAVE ME A NAME OF SOMEONE CLOSE TO ME,BUT THIS IS SO EXPENSIVE AND WILL IT REALLY HELP ME & WILL I REALLY NEED IT. ITHINK I'LL DO OKAY WHILE I AM LOSING BUT , IN THE PAST WHEN I GET CLOSE TO MY GOAL, I DO A LOT OF SELF SABOTAGING.SORRY FOR THE LONG MESSAGE BUT IT JUST STARTED FLOWING.

Hi Joan Though I'm not worried about the surgery in itself I do wonder if I to will have problems after success. Since I've never succeeded at weightloss I never reached that time in life and don't know if I will take it in stride or totally freak out. Your right though and it is expensive. I have a great employer who does give us some free hours of psych that I can use if needed. Plus I plan to go to support groups locally as soon as I can. I hear that helps tremendously. But I think you are doing a wonderful job in identifying that you might need the help. Denying it wouldn't be good. I wish us both luck. Best wishes and much success on your surgery. Jackie

I have had that terrible thought too, that the weight could come back on. We just have to make up our minds that this time we have the tool we need to be successful and we are going to do it. Continue to come here after your surgery and get the support that you need from other post ops and some day return the favour to the newer pre ops. This is a great therapy tool just by coming here and discussing with people *****ally do understand where you are coming from. If you have a support group in your area take advantage of it. Wishing you the best of luck in your journey. Patty