Im overwhelmed

I would love to know whats wrong with me.....my surgery date is Aug 24th...I have been working on this for the past 2+ years....and when they called to give me my date I just said..."oh..okay thanks" most of you have cried and celebrated and just plain ol cheered for joy...I have 61 days and all I can think of is all of the things I need to get done between now and then. My friends and family seem more excited than I do. I do want this wls more than anything....has anyone felt this way or am I an alien ???

Hi Michele, first of all you are NOT an alien!!!!!!! Everybody reacts in different ways! Just because most of us go in this emotional roller-coaster doesn't mean you have to as well. You are just fine. Congrats on your date and all the best. Have a great day. Sabine

Thanks Sabine I guess you are right...I am glad Im not on an emotional roller coaster. I am pretty calm about things anyways so I shouldnt really be surprized about my reaction...I just thought that after all the hard work and waiting I would have been more excited... Thanks again Michele

Dear Michele, I agree your ok. Be glad you are not going through the emotional up and downs. I am counting down every day. I am nervous hopintg something doesnt happen to stop the surgery..or put it on hold for one reason or another. I am nervous about me too, not wanting to fail. Then there is the no chore thing......that bothers me........because I have three kids. two are with me constantly at home. But, my mom will be here for at least two weeks, possobily three. She will be a huge relief. She knows just how to handle the boys. So, I wont have to worry as much about them while in the hospital. My husband , wellmen look at things differently, and it will be a chalolenge in different ways in that department. I so need this surgery. It will help me heal completely from other surgeries I had the past two years. Good Luck, Mary

Hi Mary Thank you for your reply...Its really nice to have friends like you as 98% of my friends here do not have a clue. I have two friends who have had wls in the past two years and they are very helpful as well....only I hate bugging them all of the time. I am also counting down the days...I have 59 days to go. I am nervous about something going wrong too....and it seems like everyone around me is sick...so I am trying to stay well. I decided to get stuff done around the house that needs to be done...like finishing the kids bathroom...(scrapping wall paper and painting) and working in my yard. August will be spent getting my kids ready for school...(clothes and school supplies) I also have 3 kids....18, 16 and 14. My husband is planning on taking off a few days and I have some really good friends that plan on checking in on me. I also thought I would prepare some meals and freeze them for the family. So I do have enough to keep me busy.... Thanks again Michele

You are not the only one! I was in the same situation! I was trying to have the surgery for 2 years and then I got a new job new insurance and wamo My new insurance approved it ! It didnt hit me though until they scheduled my date and then the panicing started and I freaked writing my will and all that good stuff ! But it will pass and you will be excited again dont worry! kristin

Hi Kristin Im glad I am not alone....I just realized that I havent been sleeping really well...when I lay down at night my mind goes crazy thinking about everything I need to get done before the big day...I know I will have a million emotions the week before... 59 days and counting..... Thanks for your reply Good luck to you too.... Michele

I remember the day I found out my date. I just didnt say anything, I wasnt sure how to react. I was worried because I wasnt sure I would be ready and I was excited. So my reaction, lol, was to just say nothing. Thank God my sister was there to react for me. Now my emotions are mixed al the time, happy, scared, excited. We all handle things differently and probably at some point before your surgery, one day, you will just go "Wow this is really happening" and then you will get that excited feeling. Good Luck Patty

Hi Patty Its so funny you would mention that.....because Pacific Bariatric called in the morning to tell me my surgery date....I talked to my husband a couple of times that day and never said anything to him. That night at dinner I finally said to the family..."oh I have something to tell all of you...I have a surgery date of Aug 24th" they were all excited and I just sat there in shock...!!! Like you said Im glad I had someone with me to react. Its crazy. This past weekend I met a friends sister for the first time and Mark said to her..."take a good look at Michele cuz the next time you see her she will look completly different" I dont even tell anyone anymore because I am tired of explaining and defending myself. Anyway, Im sure I will be more excited as the time approaches... Thanks again and good luck to you too Michele

Michele, Just be glad your not on the emotional roller coaster. My feelings change constantly about my surgery. I have wanted this for about 5 years and totally decided to do it in Jan. this year. When they gave me my date I was disappointed because it was so far off but I had to haave additional test done that they didn't think we could get done right off. But they were all done with in less than 2 weeks. So this just gave me more time for the roller coaster. Your just fine!!!!! Good luck and my thought and prayers are with you!! Cindy