Post-Anniversary Question

He never went to jail, we had joint custody and the courts didn't care. He just came back in may and boy did i get him! I spit in his face and slapped him, he won't come around anymore. He was very surprised at my weight loss, told me i'm hot! Too late for him. Anyway my addiction was pretty much burgers, the greasier the better. And no, i'm not depressed any more. He came home on christmas day 2004, the best gift ever. By the way, my new pics will be on this week sometime. Hugs Linda

Linda, it is true, that is the best Christmas present you could have received. Good thing he is out of your life. Can't waite to see your new pictures. Take care.

For me it was acute depression and me not taking care of me. I never lost my weight after having my sons, and then my marriage failed and there were some extremely difficult years...and the weight kept coming on, and because of acute depression I didn't really care. I felt out of control in every part of my life, but dammit, I was going to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and no one was going to take that away from me. Then one day I was over 300 lbs and I had to make a decision. It took me 4 years from first thinking of WLS to actually having it. But it is the best thing I have ever done for myself and I don't regret it for a second. The two biggest things I have learned these last 2 years--although I still struggle with both--is that I have to take care of myself, and that if I don't no one will, and that I need to learn to be kind to myself. I think we go through so many years of failures and self-doubt and discrimination that it is all too easy to find our faults. I am still struggling to realize my strength and successes, but old habits die hard and I really have to work at it. But it is paying off! Prime example is the fact that I am taking karate lessons--with my 10 y/o son, no less! Me! Karate! And even though I am not terribly coordinated I love it enough to keep on trying and enjoying the heck out of it. I love it when I get the old "it's the easy way out" routine from some ignoramus. My answer to that? If that is the case (and in their eyes it truely is!) well then bring it on! The pain and shame and discrimination I went through as an obese person was hell, and it is about time for something "easy!" I dare them to walk a mile in my shoes and then tell me it's easy. And I walk away with my head held high and I don't let them bother me one single iota. Blessed Be, Susan

Susan, I can hear it in your words that you have overcome so many difficult times and that you are doing great. The bad marriage hurt you in many ways. But, I hear great things from you. Taking Karate lessons is awesome. It is a great workout. Plus, you share valuable time with your son. We have the gift of understanding people that are obese. We have been there and lived it. Hold your head up high because you deserve it. You are an inspiration to us and all human beings. Keep kicking and take care.

I have always been chunky girl---slimed out in High School seemed to maintain my wieght till I was 26 yrs old after 4 children. We wer stationed at Ft. Sharidon Illionis on lake Michagen from Dec-May. I have never been so cold in my life. I put wieght on like a bear would for the winter. I never got ride of it till I got to 254 at 50. My Mother died at 65 and when I turned 50 I relized the way I was going I too would be gone in just 15 yrs. (she died for compliecations of diebeties) Mom was over wieght all my life. On top of that I was diganoused as Manic Drepesion so that didn't help--my x would call me crazy but never would help me get help. I am now married to some one I new in High School and we are so good to each other he has been so supportive threw this all. I love me and world I have maintained the same wieght now for about 1yr now and I worrie now that I will get big again. I too need to up date my Photos Ruthy