Post-Anniversary Question

OK, now that the celebrations have cooled down. We all enjoyed a great anniversary month, I would like to ask a new question. I know many of have a complete profile, and many of us don't. I would like to ask a deep question. What was the turning point that made you and I obese? What made us lose control of our weight. It has been 2 years since our surgery. We all have a better understanding of ourselves. Since I would love to hear from all of you, I will give my experiences as a reply. Hope to hear from all of you. Take care.

This is a good question! I think for me, the turning point was that I was so tired to going on diets, being successful at losing the weight, buying a new wardrobe----only to go back to my old eating habits and gaining the weight back, plus more. I went through a terrible bout with depression and infertility, and all those excuses were just that----excuses for eating. I didn't exercise, and the combination was critical for me becoming so obese. My health got poor. I saw myself going down the same path that my mother had traveled. WLS was there for her in 1980 (albeit was a different type), and I believe it saved her life. WLS wasn't my first option, I tried other diets (again), but I knew it would have to be the tool that would change things permanently for me. I hope others will answer this question, because I am curious too. ~Laura

Laura, thank you for sharing your experience with all of us. We all took different roads with the same destination.Take care.

Hello, I will answer my question. I am the youngest of 9 men. My family was poor. My mother cooked everything with lard. When I was a kid I hated to be the last one to eat. I had what was left on the pot. It was delicious but never healthy. I always had a sweet bread and whole milk at night to fill me up. I never got large because I played sports at school, at the park, and with my friends. After high school, I didn't play much sports any more. I was working, going to school, and dating. With my work pay at the age of 15, I felt (I was wrong) I could finally eat without still feeling hungry. In my 20's everything caught up to me. I didn't play sports, bought a car, and ate unhealthy food all day. I started gaining 10+ pounds per year. When the company I worked for went out of business I believed I could finally lose the weight. I had worked almost 15 years in the same company working 45-65 hours 6-7 days a week. I continued gaining weight. My problem was that I was only eating 2 X a day, but a small unhealthy breakfast and a large unhealthy breakfast. I knew I had crossed the line. I was dying. I broke the wrench to open the screw. I needed a new tool to help me open the door to happiness. Today, I am using the tool. Thank you all for taking the time to read it. God bless you and take care.

I'm sure this is going to sound like an excuse or a cop out...but for me it was hormones. I was chunky through school no matter how much I exercised (walking to and from school, riding my bike or walking everywhere I went & being active in not only PE but marching band and drill team as well...) but when I went off the pill when I was 19 (almost 20) I put on nearly 80 lbs in a year with no change to my diet & activitiy level. The doc I had at the time couldn't explain it and told me that "maybe I was just destined to be big". At the time I had no idea that my weight gain was because of a hormonal imbalance I had (that was undiagnosed at the time). Then I tried and tried to get the weight off...but the hormonal imbalance made it just that more difficult. Even on prescribed diet drugs (like Fastin, Meridia & Adipex) I only lost 30 lbs in a year. I had the best results with Weigh****chers loosing 34 lbs in 2 years. And even then...following the program & exercising...the weight started to come back on. That made it easy to quit and made me discouraged. Then I started the different diets out there...no red meat, grapefruit juice, Atkins, South Beach, The PCOS diet, the IR diet, The Syndrome X diet...none of which worked and I got bored with easily so the weight came off slow...and came back faster. Anyway...that's my story... Kristy

Kristy, it is not a cop out. We all got to the same destination on different paths. One thing for sure, we all tried different diets to fix our problem. We needed a tool to help us. We are all doing better. Thank for sharing your experience. Take care.

Mine was a bad marriage and I turned to food for comfort which lead to numerous health issues and a vicious cycle.

Tracy, bad marriages can hurt us in many different ways. Nice to hear from you. Take care.

i got fat when i was a kid. I think it's genetic. Between that and my fast food addiction . But i wasn't my highest weight til my ex husband kidnapped my 12 year old son and took him overseas. That lasted four years til my son saved enough money to sneak back. I think i gained like a hundred pounds from that depression. Linda

Linda, nice to hear from you again. Is your ex husband still overseas or is he now in jail for kidnapping? What was your favorite fast food addiction? Mine was double bacon avocado cheeseburger. Too much calories and fat. I hope you are no longer depressed concering your son. I know we all have more things to worry about other than our weight. Take care.