Anyone who has spare words of encouragement ;) I could use them!!

Hello all, Well I am a 29 year old mother of 4 children and I'm having the RNY August 21st @7:30am. I am a little nervous because I have no family in NY. All my family live in NC. My husbands family and I are not very close so they do not know that I am having surgery. I have lived here in NY for 7 years and been married for 5. He brought three boys to the marriage and I brought one girl we have no kids biologically together. I am so scared that I do not have enough emotional support, although my husband does support me you know how men can be...very non chalant!!! If anyone has the time e-mail me I would appreciate it!! Thanks Keishia

Hello Keishia, First of all I am very happy that your surgery date is right around the corner. Congratulation as you journey to your new life. I will be praying for your that all works out well and as I have faith in God it will! Prepare your mind mentally and discard all the negative from others or the lack of support. although I am in California, I send you a daily hug and am standing in the Gap on your behave to the Lord. God has brought you this far and he will not leave you. Trust in him and he will calm your heart and mind. Should you need me, I am an email away! Be happy and free knowing you are doing the right thing. Synthia R

Hi Keisha, I am scheduled to have surgery on 8/20. I received some news today that may push that date back some however. I just want you to know that you have my full support as you endeavor to meet your goal. While I and the others here cannot be there physically, we are all praying for you. I do not have family here in VA either, but I have created a little schedule so that my sisters, and neice from the Philadelphia and my best friend from Harrisburg can alternate times to be with me while I am unable to drive. Hopefully you have a few friends from your job or in the community that can support you as well. I believe that your husband may surprise you and be more of an emotional help to you than you think. Take care and stay encouraged. Maria

Hi Keishia! Kudos to you for reaching out. Sometimes people get scared and pull into themselves. I am having surgery here in Massachusetts on August 25th and am feeling a bit nervous myself. I had my final appointment with my surgeon today and it's becoming more real. My husband and kids are worried too, which only makes me feel worse. I do know in my heart that I'm doing the right thing for myself AND for them and you are too! I cannot know why you are not close with your husband's family -- if there aren't unusual cir****tances, might this be an opportunity for you to become more close by sharing with them this huge and important change in your life? They might surprise you. Of course, if you think that's not possible, you might be better off not having the pressure of their potential disapproval. Only you can make that decision. In any case, please know that I am out here sending you a big hug and wishing you the very best. I will be thinking of you on the 21st. Love to you, Kim

Hey Keishia, My name is Kiva and I live in Yonkers also. If you ever need to talk we can exchange phone numbers. I am having my surgery this month also. My date is the 12th. If I am feeling ok by the time you have your surgery maybe I can come and see you at the hospital if you are having it done locally. Holla at me and let me know. Take care and good luck. You will be fine.