July Surgery and Journalling for Accountability

Hi, My name is Lorraine, but just call me Rain :). I'm 45 and about a month and a half into surgery. I need to get out of my head and become accountable. To myself mostly, but having like minded friends to hold myself accountable to would be wonderful. If you are also finding a need for support, or kick in the butt :P please join me here and we can become true successes.

So I've always had weight issues one way or another, and a few years ago got the lap band surgery. What a fail on so many levels. Finally, recently I got the reversal and received the sleeve. What a difference. Although with that said it doesn't mean I'm out of the woods at all. I lost about 22 lbs my first month and felt like I failed. I know better, but I read about people who lose 30-40 lbs, and wonder what did I do wrong? With so many years of struggling with the weight, I've learned some very important things about myself including: I have a terrible relationship with the scale; I need to stop beating myself up; I need to accept that success is a journey and so very much more.

The way I plan to become a true success is to journal my way through the issues, allow myself to be proud of the successes, and to get rid of my 'fat' way of thinking. I hope that some of you would be interested is joining me on this journey, and we can as a group lift each other up and get the most that we can from this procedure.

I'm taking so long, sorry... anyways, I plan to commit to posting on this forum at least 4 times a week, make sure I'm open and honest, and finally I'm going to learn how to think thin. Looking forward to meeting any fellow members and starting new friendships.

Take care, good luck, and cheers.  

Going for coffee with a group of friends this evening. One thing I've noticed since the operation, is that avoiding unhealthy food is relatively easy. There are a few things I need to avoid more often, like salt and high carb proteins like nuts or beans, but otherwise all is well. I do notice that I miss pop, so coffee is my drink of choice. Wish I could learn to enjoy water more. Those flavors for water are not for me. Oh well, in the big picture, it's alright.

If you struggle with the scale, then don't focus on the numbers, focus on how you feel, how your clothes fit, and how much more energy you have! Everyone is different! 

I'm surprised you are drinking coffee already. I'm not allowed coffee anymore (I had RNY, not VSG), but I didn't think any of us were supposed to have coffee. Take care of that new stomach. :) 

I hope you have amazing success!!

Yup, staying away from the scale. Once a month is plenty enough, that's for sure. Regarding coffee, yes I do drink it. I looked around on line and saw that many people were doing it, so I figured 'why not'. Honestly was looking for an excuse. So I am having coffee, and am drinking only a cup at coffee time, as it is very filling. Somehow though, it gives me the psychological boost I need.

Finally I'm feeling good. About myself, and my success that is. I really am noticing the big difference the clothing is fitting, and those close to me are going on about how much slimmer I look. Weird thing is a year ago such compliments would have made me feel insecure, and even guilty. Now with working on self worth, it feels incredibly nice. How great it is to allow myself to feel good. Boy I'm a mess, lol, but I suppose I didn't gain all my weight in the first place just because...