Competition

Ok you guys...I am sitting at 203 lbs, down from 272 in July 2009. My friend had her RNY a week after I did and she is already at 199 lbs. What am I doing wrong?  I know it is not a competition but even on here, I see people surpassing me and it gets depressing. Sure I am in a size 12, taking my vitamins, getting almost all my protein in each day and liquids...I am not eating like I used to and I am exercising (almost regularly). I know for a FACT that she is doing NONE of these things and it kind of bums me out that she hit one-derland before me. 

I know i KNOW that I should be happy with where I am now because it is a drastic difference from where I started (272 lbs and size 26/28).  I just needed to vent and am wondering if anyone else feels the same way sometimes? How do you get over it? How can I be happy with where I am if I am feeling so cruddy?  Do our brains ever catch up with our bodies?

Don't beat yourself up...
Everyone losses different.. You have done awesome.. every body's body is different.!!

I agree with Lisa..  You're doing great.  Just curious, not that it matters really, but how tall is your friend and where did she start weight wise?  I've been slackin' on my protein the last couple of days and water too.  Been too busy to stop and drink or eat -ugh-, but I'll get back on track.  One day at a time. 

Hang in there :-)

We are all entitled to a pity party every once in a while :) But remember you have lost 70 lbs in like 5 months! That's nuts! Everyone is different and as long as we all end up in the same place in the end (healthy weight for our body) then its all good. BTW I am so stinking jealous of the size 12! Holy crap girl! That's another thing. I am only 6 pounds more than you and I am wearing a 16.  Everyone is different!

I agree.....I am at 193 and I am not in a size 12 yet!  I am in a 16 and probably could wear some 14s depending on how they are made.  You have come a long way and you cannot compare yourself to anyone else!  This is your dream and you shouldn't look at anyone else to compare b/c this should be all about you!  Your doing GREAT so keep up the good work!

 I started at 242 and have just now reached 60 lbs lost. I think it all depends where you started and how your body metabolizes. I can't compare myself to other peoples weightloss anymore because I get discouraged and upset. When have I ever been able to say I lost 60 lbs in under 5 months? So really it's not worth the heartache to compare. Your doing fantastic and I think not weighing so much helps. A watched teapot never boils! 

Val :) 

Thanks all of you!!  I needed that encouragment :)  I love the fact that I can come on here and get the support and **hugs** I need to make me feel better.  The fact that all of us have this great gift in common and that we all know what it feels like is a blessing.

Thank you again for everything!! 

JULY 2009 rocks

Keep up the good work. I am also feeling flabby and fat. One thing I was upset about was when I was scheduled to have my surgery in May and then it was moved to the end of July. Reason being is that I know that it is difficult for my body to let go of weight in the fall and winter months. And of course my body always wants to eat more. I am like a bear that way. And I was furious...

We are all different and yes, I feel depressed also that I have not reached that under 200 lbs weight onderland. Everyone around me says I look great... people want to hire me..people are treating me better...women want to be around me more...just the other day a young woman wrapped her arms around my waist and gave me a big hug with her head against my chest out of the bluet..this has never happened to me. So why do I feel like such a loser? God only knows. I am down from a size 48 trousers to size 40s now loose. But a size 38 is still a little too snug...so I think for me I am getting the feeling like when I was a size 46 before my surgery and my trousers would fit loose but I couldn't get under that weight and felt fat. Now I am a size 40 and get that same feeling.

I also can't see my face because I have to be on stage December 10Th in LA ..SO I have to have a big beard...

Keep your chin up and your eyes forward...we are experiencing something wonderful and new...

I believe we all go through a self IMAGE CRISIS I call it.. I look in the mirror every day and I still see 380lb even though I'm now less than 240lbs.. I believe it takes time just like it will take time to get to our goals.. but it will happen.. just remember like you said "YOU ARE STILL AN AWESOME DUDE"

PEACE & LUV TOO THE JULYER's YOU
GUYS ARE AWESOME SUPPORT!!