Family, you just gotta love 'em...

This has been kinda bugging me so I thought I'd vent here...On Thanksgiving day my family got together with my brother, his wife and a bunch of inlaws. Besides my Brother making a quick comment about "losing some weight" nobody even mentioned my new look - nearly 90 lbs gone , a whole little person gone from my body, and no one even said a thing! Talk about feeling invisible! They were so into themselves. I know... "I didn't do it for them", "it's about being healthy - not looking good", etc, etc. But it still feels bad. Thanks! Sue

Over Thanksgiving I saw a lot of people I haven't seen since well beofre surgury, you know whaat I got? Did you do somethign to your hair???? HELLO?!?!?! I've lost 80 pounds!! You deffiantely have to love these people. And I know, you didn't do it for them, you did it for you and your health, but a little acknowlegdement would be nice! Way to go on your weight loss!

Something to your hair huh?!? I'd like to meet the hair stylist who could give you a great cut and make you look like you've lost 80 sum pounds!!!! Good for you on your weight loss too and Thanks! Sue

Somethings you have to remember. Everyone is not going to celebrate with you. Some will actually go out of their way not to. Especially family. Jealousy is BIG when it comes to weight loss. I poses a threat to allot of people who looked forward to you being the largest person in the room, or being able to have someone they could secretly feel better than. So when they see you have done something that places them in a vulnerable position, by taking away the safety net of satisfaction they had in knowing that you were worse off than them in some way, the last thing they will do is acknowledge that by celebrating your success. Practice self affirmation and surround yourself with people who are willing to celebrate with you. You have worked hard and you deserve it. I am down 73 lbs. and I look damn good!!! The inner diva is coming out and the people around me know it and some can't stand it. Oh well, it doesn't mean I'm better than anyone, I'm just redefining who I really am. Most of them have never been 320 lbs., if they had they would want to be celebrated too. I was 320, now I"m 246 and counting down, and I"m going to celebrate!!! You should too....with or without family.

Very well said... Couldn't have said it better myself! ~~~Triple C.~~~

Thanks! That's some terrific insight! I guess it's a bad way to use energy - worrying about family and their lack of support - I have some terrific friends that do celebrate with me and I am blessed!! Wrong focus for a while there - Thanks for steering me where I need to be! Now the "Inner Diva"... I'm not quite there but am tickled that you have drawn her out. Good Luck with your journey. Thanks again, Sue

Oh,my... I thought it was ME! So glad we have each other to sound off on this website. Except for some people at the gym I have not heard a word about my drastic weight loss and appearance from family or friends. I walked into Thanksgiving dinner a size 8 this year - last year I was a size 18... hello.... that is like the elephant in the room.... pardon the pun! We all hugged, kissed and said the usuals but no comments about my new body. So I decided right there and then that it does not matter what "they" think or say... I strutted my stuff and ate my little meal and offered thanks for so many many things this year. I am blessed with wonderful kids and grandkids and a husband that I adore. I have a lot to be thankful for and I feel and look fantastic. The next family thing is CHRISTMAS and I intend to look drop-dead gorgeous!!

Congrats on your accomplishments, you have done absolutely amazing. Size 18 to a 8, you bet they noticed but perhaps couldn't find it them to say so. I figure as long as I feel good and I notice, I'm happy! And I bet you will be DROP-DEAD GORGEOUS...I hope you post pics. I'd love to see your shining moment and celebrate with you. (((Hugs))) ~~~Triple C.~~~

Hi ShelleyAnne, Wow, you have your mind wrapped around the good stuff! It's nice to hear I'm not the only one also. There are so many great people out there on this website, it helps with the ups and downs of this new lifestyle we have now. Thanks again and I'd love to see your xmas photos too but I haven't figured out how to post photos either - so I'm with you there! Have a great, drop-dead gorgeous holiday!!! Sue

Thanks triple C, hugs back at ya! I have not figured out how to do pix yet but am going to learn soon... LOL.