How do you all deal with your bad days (eating)?

Hi all my fellow July surgery cousins , Figured you all would understand and relate more (if you've dealt with this) since we were all RE-born in July. So how do you deal with bad days of eating? I really struggled over TG and it went on longer then it should've. I'm a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to myself (not like that with others at all just with me), I've pretty much followed the rules the whole time but was way to lacks over the holiday. I kept my daily cals under 900-1000 (my norm is like 6-800 cals a day. The higher cals were for 2 days the other days were poor choices but at MY norm cal range) but my choices were horrible. I've felt horribly about it ever since and have since straightened back up. Problem is I have lots of guilt over my bad days and I can't seem to let it go and move on even though I've moved on eating wise. Anyone else ever deal with this? What kind of self talk gets you through it? Thanks in advance for your responses. ~~~Triple C.~~~

Hello there! Please don't get down on yourself for making a few poor choices. The main thing is that you recognize they were poor choices. Just remember, this is a lifelong commitment. We are all going to have days when we don't make the best choices. I know I have. It's when those days turn in to weeks that you should worry. It sounds like your pretty normal. There's nothing we can do to go back in time and change what we've done. All we can do is acknowledge our mistakes and try to make better decisions the next go around. So, keep up the good work! Sounds to me like you're doing an excellent job! Your friend, Deanna

Hi Deanna, Thanks for responding. I guess old habits die hard. And yes, you are correct about days turning into weeks. Thats what I told my husband as I discussed my issues of guilt with him. I just get so stuck on doing this right, I just feel like this is my one shot of hope of losing this weight and having a good chance of keeping it off. I just really don't want to screw this up. Thanks again for your words they really have helped me. It really helps to know that we are not alone with our issues. ~~~Triple C.~~~

TG? So over with! You have to stop punishing your self. Pick your self up and move forward. Yesterday is over and unchangable but you have control over today and hope for tomorrow. Ask God to grant you the serenity........

Hi Bejai, Powerful words and very true. I do need to move on but I get stuck every now and then. It's all apart of my fears of thinking I will wake up one day and realize this chance that I've been given is a dream or will be somehow taken away from me. I know that it's reality, I just have to work on changing my thought process along with old habits. Thank you so much for answering my post, your words mean a lot to me. ~~~Triple C.~~~

Triple C, I know in the past I would let myself eat and eat and eat...I would be so sick that night from overeating. Thing was I never felt guilty. This yr I feared TG dinner but it went off like a charm. I didnt give myself permission to overeat I listened to my pouch and stopped before I was miserable. As for the quilt u are feeling....I would say keep it coming. It might be what helped u get back on track....for yrs I would diet and cheat once and then not diet again for months...I thought once I cheated.....I had failed. Im so poud of you that u were able to regain control of your eating and get back on track. If u didnt feel quilty u might not have gotten your control back... I hope u continue to make good choices without totally depriving yourself. I will tell u one trick I have learned. If I feel I just have to have something sinful. I will only let meyself have 3 bites of it and never more. I take the time to actually taste it....let it linger in my mouth. Most of the time it is never as good as I remembered it being. Back then I ate so fast I never really tasted anything. I think I ate for the fullness and the sugar high. I know I kinda rambled on but I hope this helps you. Im just glad u are back on your program now. Thats a huge step...Most ppl never get that far. Mariah

Hi Mariah (I love your name ), Thanks for taking the time to respond to my post. I like the 3 bite rule. I haven't been depriving myself to this point (well at least I don't think so *L*), I probably eat way more liberally then most. My menu might scare some that are the same amount post-op as I am and those post-op before me . So far so good thus far. I think the guilt derived mostly from my lacks attitude those days. Only thing is my guilt is probably hindering me more then helping me. And then maybe not, I don't know but you do bring up an interesting point about keeping the guilt in the forefront, if you will. I think I just have to find balance with that issue just as I do with this entire journey. I found over the 5 days of lacks attitude, I'd feel guilty, get depress and continue to make bad choices. I feel like if I'm doing everything "correct" I'm on top of my game sort of. I know this is something I have to work on because we don't live in a perfect world and things will come up to prevent me from making the best choice that I can. I think after spelling it out here, I probably just blew things out of porportion in my head and became slightly overwhelmed. I've made not so great choices before I just think it was the length of time that was scary to me. It was like I was losing control and I didn't like that idea at all. Losing control for me represents failing. This truly has taught me something about myself and I definitely have this as a learning experience. Thanks again for your kind words, I really need to have someone who understands to talk this through with me so that I can make since of everything. Have a great night, ~~~Triple C.~~~

This is a journey... not a destination. You are learning and accepting new eating habits and getting your emotions, social situations, etc. in check all at the same time. I would say you are doing a great job and if you slip a little bit - you are human - congratulations - it is not failure - it is an opportunity to learn about you. Guilt has no place in your every day life now. You are the priority. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY does this perfectly, 100%, healthy, minimalist, by the protocol forever. Life is there to slap you back to reality. That is why you have that nifty tool inside now to help you gain the strength, the faith, the belief in your health and fitness forever. Being trim and healthy and fitting in to the mainstream of society is a goal, a desire to be "normal" weight and live a good quality life, right? Well, a piece of bread, cake or a cookie is not a crime... just a poor nutritional choice for your BODY... no biggy. Just don't make it a habit again or a comfort for your stressors or emotions. HUGS!!!

Hi Shelly, Hey, thanks for the reality check . VERY WELL SAID! I definitely have to keep those things that you pointed out in mind. I definitely lose sight of whats important when it comes to my journey sometimes. "You are learning and accepting new eating habits and getting your emotions, social situations, etc. in check all at the same time." The above quote really helps my thought process because it is so true and I definitely have not taken this into consideration at all. I'm just so focused on getting to where I want to be that I lose my focus...THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I am to concerned about the social situations. I've never been one to worry about things like that NO MATTER WHAT! But this time things are very different and my attitude has changed. I don't want to feel like the spectacle (it's weird because anybody that knows me know that I have never been one to care about what others think about what I do, when I do it, how I do it etc), I'm also fearing x-mas because we will be out of town visiting relatives. But the good thing is, I am preparing a little better for that. I have ordered somethings I can eat in a pinch that are more appropriate eating items. Sorry to go on but you too, gave me something to really think about. Thanks a bunch for responding! Have a great night, ~~~Triple C.~~~