i didnt tell i had wls! did u?

Sandy, You are definately not wrong! Like most have said, whatever feels comfortable for you. I don't tell everyone for the same reasons as most, there are ignorant people who will give negative comments about gaining it back etc...that I don't need to hear & I don't feel like big explainations & getting defensive, if they don't know about the surgery I don't hear any of that "stuff" . Keeping myself from hurtful comments is most important, so I have learned the hard way & keep it to myself alot more now. take care, Hugs, Heather

hey sis,,,glad to hear im not the only one,,,,i just dont think alot of people that ask how we are and what we are doing about our weight lost really care,,,,lol,,,you know what i mean,,,,,how are you doing,,,how much have you lost now,,,im 72 and holding,,,,hope your doing great and hope you have a wonderful christmas,,,,,write again soon, your sis, sandyL

Hey Sandy, I am at 63lbs and not budging for a few weeks now, but that's ok I know it is much slower now. I wasn't able to do any exercise cause I was sick (just a bad cold) so I'm just getting back on track now. Other than that I am doing great!!! I got a car on the road, so that is nice! I'm dating.... yes, that's right. ME I'm dating. I never thought I would be doing that again. I'm actually waiting for my date right now, we're just going to watch a movie, but I am nervous like a school girl. I feel kinda sexy though, I am 172lbs. and fit size 16 now (HUGE DIFFERENCE) so I think I have more confedence. take care , ttys (talk to you soon) Hugs, Heather

wowowow i lost 1lb this week,,,,,,,,,lol,,,,man i liked it the way it was before,,,5 or so a week,,now those where the days,,,,lol,,,,your doing great,,,,,,hope will have a wonderful christmas,,,,,and thats great about your boyfriend,,,,,,i just sent my boyfriend to atlantic city so i can have a passion party,,,,,lol,,,wish i was with him gambling,,,,lol,,talk to you soon,, hugs,, sandy

I told (and still) tell anyone? It was MY decision and I don't care what other people think about it. If I could stand up to my family who was against it no one else matters. It was my life and health on the line and I did what I felt was best for me. I will not fail, I am claiming victory. I decided long before the surgery if God Blessed me with this gift I would make the best use of it I could. ONLY an overweight person or one who has been there at some point could understand. If I am happy, everyone is happy as far as I am concerned. Not to sound arrogant but I couldn't care less about the doubters, detractors, haters. No room for them or their silly opinions. It won't change a thing that I do for me! You hang in there and claim your victory. Shake the devil off and move onward!!! Huggzz, Bejai!

wish i could be more open like you,,,its just i know the people i hang with,,,and i really dont want to hear it,,,,,im going to get through this as you and so many more will to,,,,,good luck and your doing great ,,keep it up,,and merry christmas,, sandy

Hi, all. This very subject came up at our family THANKSGIVING DINNER table!! UGH! My daughter-in-law began to speak about a co-worker that had the surgery and WHAM without warning, my husband said: "just like you had, hun!!" I was too far away from the turkey to get the carving knife, or I swear.... LOL. My thoughts on this are coupled with weeks of research before the surgery and here is what I discovered: I do not want to be the "lifetime story of the week" I do not want to be stared at for eating this or that or how slow I eat. I do not want to have to justify this surgery to people who are ignorant and do not have the facts or the experience and decide that I took the "easy way out" - (yeah, right!) My immediate family knows and my best friend, my doctors, dentist and any other necessary professionals. I am a lawyer. I cherish my privacy. I would not discuss a hysterectomy or breast augmentation with the world; then why would I have a need to tell them about this very serious, drastic surgery I had performed on my body. I do not need acceptance or love from them for that. I need to accept and love me for what I have done... IT IS THE BEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE FOR ME!! P.S. My daughter just had it done, as well, and feels the opposite way about this. She doesn't care who knows. To each his own!!! ShelleyAnne

its sounds like you and your daughter are doing great,,,,,my daughter needs it too,,but it hurts her feelings if i say anything,,,shes happy with her self,,,,i hated myself i guess that the difference,,,and she hates dr,,she never goes no matter what is wrong with her,,, thanks and keep up the great work,,,,, sandy

I told everyone. I figured that at work it would be awfully hard to answer questions from my friends since we all eat together (I'm a teacher). I didn't want to feel like I was having to constantly make up excuses. I have to say that my staff has been amazingly supportive. When they found out all the possible complications and restrictions the surgery could mean for me - they were "wow" - very shocked that I was so willing to completely change everything about my life. There were no naysayers in the bunch. Now that I've lost 98 lbs they are so supportive and continue to say how great I'm looking. I'm glad that I chose what I chose. It was about HEALTH and anyone who can't understand that, can kiss my MUCH smaller you-know-what. Dawn http://home.cogeco.ca/~diminishingdawn