Weeding the Closet.... Help

Why is this a hard step. I should be happy to remove all those clothes that are too big for me.... I've been telling myself for the past two weeks I need to do it... so WHY CAN"T I DO IT....? Theory one: I'm cheap and refuse to give away/toss clothes that are not tattered and on their last leg (pun intended)... Theory two: I'm afraid my side of the closet will be come smaller than my husbands and I'll have to give up the big side in defeat... Theory three: I'm scared to death to toss out the "oh my gosh, way to big" clothes because I haven't gotten it through my head that I won't be back in them. Let me know what you think! Have a great week all! Tiff

hello tiff finally,,,someone that understands,,i posted this about a month ago,,,everyone was telling me just give them away,,be happy,,,mine is your theory three,,,i have lost weight and lost weight i ware my clothers and lose weight i know i ill be back in them soon,,,just the way its been,,,now is this really going to work,,,am i going to lose 4 ever???? i have got rid of anything yet,,,i still ware all my big stuff,,,letting it be really baggie until,,they fall off,,,anyway,,i feel what you are going though and im there with ya,,,, friends with a pouch, sandy

I am right there with you. I feel like I"m platuaed once again (seems to happen monthly lately). I'm completely afraid that I will be tossing out something that I can not afford to replace. I just wish I could get over this little hump and move the stuff out of the closet! But my head says, STOP you will need those... I just hope my stomach/pouch help me to not need them again. Thanks! Tiff

I was the same way until yesterday. I live in Indiana and the message board for our state has a clothing exchange every three months. So I went and took in all my 4x and larger...about 3 bags full. I came home with 3 bags of clothes that were 2 and 3x and about 5 jackets and coats. Im so looking forward to the next one now. Its so nice to give things to fellow losers that like yourself are going thru clothes so fast and doesnt want to waste alot of money on things u can only wear a few months. One lady yesterday even told me how funny it is to bring something one month and someone takes it ...then see it back in 3-6 months and someone new is getting it. I think one reason we all have such a hard time besides the cost involved is that for so long we lost wt only to regain it. Its hard to believe that this time its for good. That we can get rid of the clothes becouse we wont be needing them ever again. I am going to the Lexington Convention and I have heard there is going to be a clothing exchange there. If anyone would like to bring clothes with them to give to others I can get more info on when it is and where exactly it will be. I may have a few more clothes to get rid of by then too. Mariah

See, there is a store around my house that will trade me store credit for my used clothing as long as it is nice. I have sweaters that are still in the packages that I could be trading in. I agree, we all did the lose a pound/inch gain it back. And I think that is the main reason I'm so timid to get rid of the clothing. I need to just buck up and do it. Thank you for the incouragement! I greatly appreciate it! Tiff

Tiff- I struggled with giving away certian items...things like the dress I wore to my rehearsal dinner, that suit I never really got to wear, or that dress that looked really good on me. BUT, when it came down to it, I knew I'd never wear them again...and we really don't have the room to store them forever (just in case). I'm fairly lucky in that I've saved a bunch of clothes from my "smaller days" and can easily remove something and have something "new" to replace it with without buying it. I quit buying new clothes almost a year ago (when my journey started), so I'm really looking forward to the "new" and the "new again". I hear ya though...my closet is starting to be smaller than my hubby's side....so I started hanging more instead of folding (more for my mental state of "look I still have things to wear than to "compete with him"). Best to you....when you're ready you'll pass them along. Christina S

I must be an odd one! I had no problems going through the cloest and getting rid of everything that was too big! I ended up giving away 2 huge bags of really nice clothes to a friend of a friend. I was thinking about selling it on ebay, but then thought it would be better to help someone out that really needed clothes. I have less than a half a closet full, and I just so happy I'll never be wearing that huge stuff again! Jan

I didn't save from my smaller days. In fact I had just cleaned out my clothes before me moved 3 yrs ago. I could so be wearing those clothes. I hope I"m ready to pass these clothes on soon. Thank you for the support! Tiff

I have had difficulty letting go of my too big clothes as well. As a man, part of it is the dollar aspect of being cheap and not wanting to just give my things away. I have given away about 3 trash bags full to date and probably have another bag full that I can start working on very soon. Also, it is starting to get a little colder and all of my coats are too big as well. Replacing those will be costly. A big part of the letting go is thinking in the back of my mind that I may some day need them. But, I finally resolved myself that I will never go back to that size again and getting rid of them is somewhat therapeutic though not easy. As a large man, it is harder to find places that exchange clothes and I had to break down last week and order a couple of pairs of trousers that actually fit instead of going with the baggy look. I now have started a contest to see if I'll wear out these new trousers by washing them two or three times a week or if they'll be too big before they wear out. Good luck to you, but realize it is part of a positive transformation. Scott

I totally understand, but for me it got to the point the legs were too wide I was tripping over them, I finally did it and got rid of 5 bags of clothes that is half my clothes, so can't wait to get rid of the other half good luck