Rant
HUGS TO YOU PETER!
Yes, we are all (or I guess my counselor would say "who" and I would answer "ME...I am) dealing with the junk we've (I've) been ignoring. See, even my behavior therapist is telling me to focus on "I"!
And don't forget the baby steps. I am awed that you are dating! So what if its a "now" thing... It is a very cool thing! I am still such a "fat" person in my head, I can't imagine dating yet, though I am constantly asked about it be people I see (they certainly never asked about it when I was 350 pounds!)
As for the other stuff, listen to Nan. Choose just one SMALL thing and do it....It's all about making small changes in behavior, even with all the other stuff!
And RANTING is GOOD! We've (I've) been stuffing emotions. It's MAAHVAAHLOUS that you can name them... But name them, don't be namecalling yourself!
HUGS TO YOU PETER!
frances