Alright, let the advice begin.
Seriously, you women have to help me out. This all may be TMI, but I don't care! Was it supposed to hurt as bad as it did? And why didnt it feel good AT ALL (and keep in mind I think we tried a million different positions). Ummmmm, what can I do differently next time?!
I really like this guy, I don't know how he feels about me. My mom would kill me, however, if she knew I was with him. He's significantly older than I and has kids.
Did he get you or help you get all hot and bothered before you even started? If not, it ain't near as much fun.
Rarely is the first time the pleasurable experience they show it being in books and movies. It is often awkward and uncomfortable and downright painful. It's been a year or thirty, but I don't remember joy from the first time. After that, yes. Not the first time.
Okay, I've shared too much.
-Pam
OK sweet Ashley,
Seriously folks..if you get offended easily do not continue to read this!!
For me...........There wasn't even full penetration the first, second, third time and on and on and on! It literally took about 10 times for him to "get it in!" I think it was a combination of him being large and me being small. It hurt like hell! There was blood everytime and I ended up crying everytime for at least 2 or 3 weeks. It was soooo bad! It felt like he was ripping me in half! Not trying to scare you...just letting you know that you are totally normal to have these feelings.
All I can say is that it get's so much better. I'm actually glad that he was older than you. Maybe he actually knew what the he** he was doing! Two inexperienced partners do not make for good sex. Make sure that he goes easy on you for a bit. If he's a gentleman AT ALL, he will take into consderation that you gave yourself to him as your first and that there is physical and emotional considerations.
If you're like me......sex will become one of the best parts of your life. That is.....as long as you are with someone you are sexually and emotionally compatable with.
It just takes time darlin! Time and some pain killers. Make sure that you take a little time to "heal" before going at it again.
If you have any more questions or want to talk privately about this, please email me! We all love you here.
Channan
Awwwww sweetie! I can't really add much from what Pam and Channan already said. After my first time, I didn't do it again for 2 years because it hurt so bad! Trust me, it gets better. WAY better!
Whatever you do, do not give this guy power over you! I know you like him, and that's ok, that's good. But keep your independence and hold your head high- you are worthy of every glorious thing life has to offer!