Beautiful vs. Sexy

When did our idea of "beautiful" turn into what is "sexy"? The line between the two seems to have been blurred beyond recognition. Am I the only one who has noticed this trend in the last few years? It seems like we are a nation obsessed over how much skin we can show and get away with. Women are trying to figure out what they can show off or what they can have "fixed" so that they can show it off. Don't get me wrong-I'm no NUN! I want to look sexy too, but why is that the ultimate goal these days. We all want to be considered "f#ck worthy" and in fact one of my goals is to be called a "MILF" by a stranger! HAHA! Beautiful women,to me, means more that physical attractiveness. It encompasses virtues and qualities beyond our physical selves. Beautiful people are kind, courteous, funny, caring, compassionate people. During this time when I'm focusing sooo much on how my body is changing and how I look to the world, I have let other important qualities slip. I am changing this around and taking some of the focus off of my body and turning it inwards. Can I get a witness?!?! Loves and big sloppy ones, C

Amen to that....last time I weighed what i do now i was 21 years old (28 now).. and I was single and totally sexed it up.. This time around I am married and experiencing what it feels like to be pretty in a not (sex-me- up) sort of way.... So I am somewhat conservitave by day and then sex it up for hubby by night... ;)!!!!

Sounds like a perfect balance to me! C

For me, as a very happily married woman the only person i want to be sexy is my husband. ( And I plan on knocking his socks off in a few weeks) I have never been a more beautiful person that I am now. Because when I was thing all those years ago I was very pretty to look at, but I was mean and ugly. None of you would have wanted to know me. But now that I feel better about how I look, and am almost to goal, I am realizing that I am a nicer, prettier person inside. I like that. Yes I have other issues to deal with, and am dealing with, but I am sweet...I smile and say hi to people I do not know...I have no problems talking to people, and not thinking they are thinking something about me....I feel BEAUTIFUL!! Thanks for bringing this up Chann!! Nickie

Nickie, I'm happily married too, but I still want every man in the neighborhood to be jealous of my husband! HA!! Sometimes I wish my husband would go away for a spell so that I could have time to miss him too, but he's ALWAYS here...usually bugging me! HAHA! I love him though! Nickie-You ARE beautiful-I agree. You are also quite tasty! I love your compassion and humor. You ALWAYS light up this board! C

Well, the last time I was this thin I was a teenager too. Aside from the young, supple skin, with no stretch marks or excess sagging skin, I feel MUCH sexier now. I think the difference for me is confidence. I had none back then, and didn't know how to handle the attention I got. Now, I don't get any attention but if I did, I would surely know how to handle it. I think. Hehe. No, I'm kidding, I do get some attention and have no problems. But as an "older" woman (48), I have a quiet sexiness with no need to flash some skin. It IS still very new though, and sometimes I really don't know how to present myself. I sure hope this made some sense and added to this discussion as I am often VERY confused these days! love ya girly!

Michele.......You hit the nail on the head!! Confidence...I forgot that one. It makes such a difference in how you feel and carry yourself. It's hard to be beautiful (or sexy) without it! I bet you DO get attention! You're just being sheepish! We are ALL confused these days! I go from supreme confidence in myself to supreme doubt, but I did take a hard look at myself this weekend and realized that I was looking for acceptance and validation from others. I kept thinking....."I am a beautiful woman! Why do I need or care about others opinions about myself!" That is why I posted the pic of me after my jog. I figured I had enough self-esteem to let everyone see me in my work-out clothes and covered in sloppy sweat! I always love your words babe! C