Sweets and Scales are EVIL!!!!

I had this surgery so I would not be able to tolerate sweets. Before surgery, I could take or leave candy or sweets. Actually, I did not crave them at all. Now, because I tried them and I can unfortunately tolerate them, they call my name... I think it has been because I have been feeling blue lately. Can any one out there relate? Overall I am doing excellent. Also, when I went for my checkup, why do the dr's scales read so different? It is always 6 or more pounds higher than my home digital scale. Should I go by mine or theirs? HELP! Jenna

I can definitely relate - I don't dump at ALL. Just maybe get a little gassy... But anyhoo - yeah, the docs scales are always more.... you're usually wearing shoes and layers of clothing so it counts for a coupla pounds extra - don't fret, honey... Part of this journey I am learning - is that even though I expected some magical cure to happened something MORE has to happen on my side - I need to be more proactive, care more about me... to watch what i eat - and i don't mean not indulge here and there - but less than before. You can't let it get the best of you. Replace bad moments with good things.... bad habits with good ones... I eat a lot when I am bored or when I have nothing to keep me occupied. However, now, I WANT to go out, walk, do things, MOVE! And now that i can - it's a whole different world. I also know if I LET myself fail, I will be back in the same boat I was before feeling shi*** with all kinds of medical problems.. So, I don't let the downtimes get to me. It's just one day or one instance... Like today, our family went to Boston ******y to celebrate my eldest son's scholarship and I ate WAY more than I usually do - but hell, compared to life 7 months ago - it was nothing... It took me 20 years to get WAY Obese but I won't let that happen again and neither will YOU! I know I will go back to the basics tomorrow and even though I may have gained a pound or 2, it's only passing... Jenna, hon, you (and I) have been blessed with this amazing tool to help keep us in check. Don't beat yourself up when you happen to eat something you shouldn't. Instead, create new habits, move a lot more and get out there - change something in the universe of your life. Make a decision to get up early and enjoy the sunshine - walk a little. Maybe it's something small - walk upstairs and down... maybe it's something like parking at the farthest spot away from the door of any store and walking there - but just DO IT. It helps you become stronger, more disciplined. I used to get depressed reading some of the stories here about these awesome women who run or jog or exercise or lose so quickly and I think to myself - damn, I feel old... how in the world can I do that stuff? But you know what? I also have moments when I wanna buy me some roller skates or ride a bike or do things that I KNOW i am not ready for. It's all a state of mind and YOU CAN DO IT. So, don't beat yourself up when you eat something sweet.... we've all been there. Just make sure you sit in front of the TV tonight and suck in your gut muscle about 50 times - make up for it is all I mean! Then we learn how the thin people do it and we cope and go on... Love, Nan

Nan, girl, OMG! That was such a great message you wrote. THANK YOU. It really spoke to me. Wow... Hugs, Lisa

thanks honey! I appreciate that - so many of you out there inspire ME everyday - it's nice to know that i can do the same once in awhile!

Awesome post Nan! thank you.. you made my day.. I agree with everything..and I can be one wordy bee-ach.. but you honey said it all so well... love ya Peace Mo

Thanks Nan! I actually weighed myself this morning on my scale and it reads... -99 POUNDS!!!! Almost to that beloved century mark!!! You are an inspiration! Love Jenna

No, you are the inspiration! 99 pounds is an amazing bunch of weight lost and YOU did it! I only hope I can get there by July 11 of this year - then I would be at optimum ideal healthy goal weight and then some!

nan I had surgery on july 11 too. also donot dump. I have4 lost close to 90 pounds and still worry about what I should eat. some times I eat too much and it scare me because I can eat it. Thankyou for your reply it helped a lot. sybil

Hi Jenna, Oh freaking man, I so know where you are. I feel like a drug addict. Food has a hold of me, and it's so hard to let it go. I wish I had some wonderful words for you, but I am fighting the same battle. One day at a time. I congratulate myself when I am able to say no, and realize I can start over again if I give in. I'm the same as you, I'm doing very well overall, just this damn sugar (well, chocolate) demon. Good luck hun. I'm thinking of you. As far as the scales & weighing goes, DH & I have talked, and we go by our home scale. I will weigh myself the rest of my life on this scale, so we just use that one. I'm an anomaly because my surgeon's scale is a good 4 pounds lighter than mine. But even if it wasn't, I'd go by mine. Just one opinion. Take care and good luck, Lisa

I'd like to add my two cents here. This is a general reply to all the posts and not any specific person or situation. When we have surgery, they rearrange our insides, but they don't re-wire our brains. There is a learning curve to this stuff. Some folks learn it faster and some, much slower. What I have learned from this process is that we each have a different struggle to contend with. We are still in the middle of this battle and we DO need to be changing our habits. It's the long-term key to success. However, we are in the infancy stage and are not expected to have made the complete "flip" just yet. We are all at different stages in the mental success of this journey. Statistically, some of us will never get there (bummer, I know-sorry). There are those of us who will battle this weight loss thing forever. it comes down to this: You get out of it what you put into it. Plain and simple. Loves, C