A New Dude???

Ok guys, I met a GREAT guy. Here is the scenario. Kimberly Shivers (also July baby) and I went out dancing last weekend and decided to go out of our comfort zone and go to clubs we had never been to. I am the kind of person who NEVER likes to leave her comfort zone, I am trying to work on that issue real hard so it was a real experience for me. Met a GREAT guy, we danced and talked all night long and after the band stopped playing at 2:00 we sat in the parking lot in his car talking (and smooching) for another hour. He is sooooooooooooo hot, I can't believe it. In fact, I did not want to ask him to dance cause he looked so young, around 30 and I am 49. Well he asked me to dance and asked my name and age and it turns out he is 50, I didn't believe him so I made him whip out his DL to prove it and yep he was born in 1956 like me. Whoo Hooo Well long story short, he has called me every night since then and we have talked for 2-3 hours each night. He asked me did I want to go out tomorrow night to a quiet place so we could talk and get to know each other. Of course I said yes, but later on when we were talking I told him that I get up at 5:40 every morning for work and he said oh gosh, then lets just go out this weekend instead, I hate for you to be out that late and you have to get up that early, and also he lives 1 hour from here. QUESTIONS: 1. Should I let him know I REALLY want to see him tomorrow and getting up early will be no problem? 2. How can I go out when my hair is so dang thin, it is horrible. When we go dancing I put a little mini curl thing on top to blend in but I don't want to really meet anyone under false hair pretences. 3. If things should cook up in the future, how on earth can I explain to him that I am basically a work in progress and I look wayyyy more better with my clothes on than off. Sue 273/261/156/145

1. He is trying to be "nice" but if tomorrow works for you then tell him so. 2. It is my belief that the hair thing is a much much bigger issue for women than it is for men. Half the time we can't tell when our partner gets a new dew. (This would probably help explain why i'm single.) 3. Just be honest with him, when you are comfortable. If he can't accept that you are a "work in progress" then to bad for him. Besides once the clothes are off us guys are way more interested in other things as they say. Good Luck!!!

1. NO WAY!!! Make him wait! He will be more relaxed also not having to drive an hour after work. Never ever ever let a man know that you REALLY want to see him until you're damn near married. I'm serious. YOU are the prize!!! 2. Try not to worry. You're beautiful, Sue 3. See #3 AND- you won't be sleeping with him until he is completely enamoured with you. Right? RIGHT???? Then it won't matter.

Wow our advice is the perfect "Men are from mars, women are from venus example"

I agree 100% with Michelle. On all three answers!!

I agree. Make him wait for the "sleeping with" part too. So, what he don't know now won't hurt him. And when you tell him, yall will be in love anyway, and he won't care, cuz he will love you for you, not for what you have done. You are gorgeous, and any man who don't realize that (clothes on or off) is a dumba**. just my two cents. lol

1. Go for it! I would! I don't know about anyone else but when my husband and I first started dating, I hardly got in about 3 or 4 hours of sleep a night! 2. Don't worry about your hair.... 3. Wait til the pot has at least started to boil some...but don't let it bubble over...use your best judgment and go with the flow...just make sure to use protection.. Mandie

1. if you want to see him- then GO FOR IT- call him and say- hey, i would really like to see you - even with working the next morning- it will show him- you are interested- but i would say- hold it to kissing (SMOOCHING) .. and holding hands.. awww 2. hair- hair- HAIR- i wouldn't even bat an eye at that- he might not have any "either" you just never know.. 3.be honest- when the time comes- don't need to tell him now-when the time does come- be honest with him- i'm sure he's not perfect either- RIGHT- no one is.. he might have a mole on his back he's scared to show.. so happy for you jennifer

1. If he's as interested in you as you are in him.. wait. time is always good and builds anticipation. Don't ru**** 2. Don't worry - you are beautiful, as Michelle pointed out. Let it be. Guys don't notice half the stuff we do. 3. Ddon't we all, honey? NO explanation required. Love is about the meeting of two minds and two hearts - and if two bodies make their way into the mix, well, that's alright, then. But, if he's the one - it doesn't matter. He will want your heart and mind and personality, the smile you bring to his face and the joy you bring to his life, not the body you bring to his bed.

Ok guys, update here. We did not go out Wednesday, it was just too hard during the middle of the week. But we have talked on the phone 3 hours every night this week and in the morning on the way to work. He is sooooo sweet and everytime I talk to him I get to know him more and like what I know. We are going out Fri. and Sat. this week. I will be a good girl, wouldn't want him to think I was "frisky". I broke down and told him about my surgery last night and tried to express to him that I am a work in progress.... I also said I don't know how much emphasis he puts on looks etc.... And he continued to keep talking about our date and he couldn't wait to see me so that made me feel better. ONLY TIME WILL TELL.... I feel so VERY MUCH out of my element, and out of my comfort zone. I have not had a date in over 30 years and I am totally TERRIFIED. What if I get food in my teeth, what if I spill something on my shirt. OH LORD, CALGON TAKE ME AWAY.... Sue 273/261/155/145