I need some help............

Hi Everyone~ First of all I want to say thank you! I may not post a lot but I am on here at least twice a day reading everything and trying to soak up as much as I can. So I appriciate you all very much! And when ever I have posted in the past you have all always been so wonderful, so I am asking for help again! I am thinking I should be going to a health care provider but cannot bring myself to do it! So I am asking my July family for help. I don't know what has been going on with me over the last month. I have NEVER been depressed, but that seems to be what is going on. I am under a lot of stress at work and money is tight and I could go on and on, but the reality of it is that it is nothing over the top. So why am I so down. I think why this is bothering me so much is because what I have learned in the last 6 months is that I am an emotional eater. When I am down.................I EAT! I have been grazing non stop for the last month! And my poor husband........he is sooooo excited about my weight loss and made the statement tonight that he feels like we had more sex when I was bigger! He thought I would be so into it again like I was when we were first married, since I have lost so much weight! I want to be into it, I want to want it, but I just can't get my mind to go there! I love him more than anything so I know that is not it. I catch myself yelling at my kids when they really don't deserve it! I even overheard them talking to each other saying how mean I have been lately. I am soooooo very excited about my weight loss and how far I have come so why can't I be happy? What will it take to break me out of this? I just don't understand! I was thinking it had been all the rain we had gotten, about 40 days in a row, but it has now been sunny for a week and I still don't feel like myself! My wonderful husband took me to get a new tattoo for a celebration for all the weight I had lost and as much as I love tattoos and I love what I got, I cannot get excited about it! I want to stop feeling this way! And I am not willing to use medication to do it! This sounds horrible but I work in a mental health clinic and I see what meds do to pt's. They get on an even keel, they cannot ever get really happy but they never get really sad either! I like emotions and I want to be able to keep the ability to have them, I just need something to help pull me out of this hole! I am hopeing encouraging words from you all will do it! And Lisa if you are out there, I would love to plan that lunch date! Thank you all for listening to me vent! It actually has helped a little already! Thank you all again for being here to listen! Grace

Grace- First you look amazing- great to see you picture. I think we are all going through mental ups and down. The losing weight thing is really great, but it's hard for our heads to catch up to our body. Just know we're always hear to listen. Hugs, andrea

Andrea~ Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! I needed that! xoxoxo Grace

Grace- First you look amazing- great to see you picture. I think we are all going through mental ups and down. The losing weight thing is really great, but it's hard for our heads to catch up to our body. Just know we're always hear to listen. Hugs, andrea

Hello Grace, First let me say you look amazing. Congratulations on all your success. I like you read the post here but don't get the chance to post very often and I too really appreciate being able to read about others going the same things. It really does help. As far as the depression and lack of sex drive I am going/went through the same thing. I truly believe it is hormonal. My roommate who had the surgery a month before us had to have her hormonal levels checked a few months ago and she had almost no testosterone and VERY high levels of estrogen. So far everything she has gone through I have too with a few exceptions. Now I know low levels of testosterone in women have been linked to low sex drives. I myself had my drive (usually being VERY high) all but disappear until last month. I now finally feel more "normal" in that department but then I haven't really lost any weight for the last month and half. It must have something to do with the high estrogen levels and our rapid weight loss. I also find every month around my period I get very depressed. I have no motivation and tend to just lay around super blue for a few days. My roommate and my biggest problem now is not being able to sleep through the night. I get really sleepy around 9:30 (like can't keep my eyes open sleepy) but then wake up around 12:30 to 1 am and don't go back to sleep for hours. I have tried extra calcium, sleeping pills, everything but nothing works. So I'm just tired most days which never helps my mood. It must be just another phase we got through with the surgery as I have read many others posting about similar problems. I just keep telling myself "this too shall pass". I think it's all we can do unless we want to try meds. I myself am going to try and wait it out and hope it gets better. I don't know if any of this helps you but know your not alone. My best wishes, AmyD

Hi Amy~ It does help! IT DOES HELP!! You gave me some really good insight and questions for me to ask my dr. I never thought about a hormone inbalance. That makes so much sense! I hope it is that, it would be an easy fix!!! Thanks again Amy, I really appriciate you taking the time to tell me your story and ideas!!!!!! xoxoxox Grace

Grace- Our poor bodies are undoing several years of abuse and neglect. Fat absorbs our bodies hormones and now that we are shedding the fat, our bodies are confused as to how much to produce. I don't think that anti-depressants are your best shot. I think you might need to go on some sort of birth control. My OB/GYN has put me on these in the past to even out my hormone production and regulate my cycles. Wow-sorry for the clinical response! It's a departure from my usual goofiness. Chin up honey! C Leigh

Channon~ I LOVE YOUR POST!!!! You are always so upbeat and so happy!! You are truly a role model!!! Working where I do I don't mind the clinical approch! Thank you!!!!! xoxoxox Grace

But don't rule out antidepressants. Always ask your doctor first before doing anything. It could be either your hormones, or your brain chemicals. Depression can be complicated and scarey, but just realize, we are all going through similiar things, and we are here for you.

Thank you!!! The antidepressant idea is also thrown in the ring with everything else!! I really just want to feel better!! This is not me and I don't like it!!! Thanks again!! xoxoxoxo Grace