More Dating advice??

Okay- Here is the deal- I feel like this board is becoming the Dr. Phil board-- Folks, if you want me to cut it out let me know (email directly- don't post nastiness please), and I'll stop putting my sex life (or lack thereof) out on the board. I don't want to offend anyone. The one date I clicked with was actually a 'set-up' at a happy hour in California during my "wonderful" Christmas vacation (NOT)-- You know the one I got the flu and sprained my ankle during. He came in NY for business and we had a few more dates.... SOOOO Should I go out there for a long weekend to see my sister, brother-in-law, friends and try to see him again? I am tight on money, but could use my miles. I am usually the type of woman who would never re-arrange their life for a partner (hey, wait-- maybe THATs why I am still single), but I love San Francisco and I usually go out at this time for the Russian River Barrel tasting anyway.... It could be a low pressure way to see if this works. Of course, I could have another miserable vacation.

Umm...HELLOOOOO!!!!!!!! Live GIRL! LIVE!

Yes! Come out to Cali so I can meet you this time!!!!! Well, now, how were things "left" between you two? Are you talking? Emailing, or anything? How are you planning on "trying to see him again"? Gimme details. Hell no, I am not sick of hearing about my friend's route to happiness!

We left on a decent note and have been e-mailing sporadically. I sent him an email mentioning I might come out in early March (as per Channon's suggestion), so we'll see what happens.

Hey sassy-pants! So, who is the Dr. Phil of our board? I must be the nutty guest that everybody gasps at when she tells her twisted tales! First of all--I say it's about freakin' time that we move past the, "What did you eat today?" and the "I hit a plateau-AGAIN!" phase. I can get that info on the main board. I would rather "hang" with people who actually know me. Of course, I STILL want to hear about those things too, but hearing about the personal struggles and successes of your lives makes me value your friendships much more. AND- dating after wls is definately an issue that is relivent to our board. Look at the responses that you got on your last post regarding dating!! With that said~tell us more about this guy! I say---Casually let him know that you are coming out and then wait for him to offer up a get-together. If he doesn't take the bait-tell him that you cancelled your trip. This way you'll know if he's interested and if he's not you will not have wasted your miles. Take my advice! There is a reason that I have been happily married for ten years! I know and love men! I have many wonderful relationships with men and find them easier to get along with than many women. Of course, you ladies are great!! I can't wait to hear what happens! Keep us posted!! I want details-dangit! C

Channon always has such fabulous advice! Listen to her. Like Channon, I love that we are sharing out lives on this board. We are more than our weight loss, and that gives us all encouragement and a dose of realism for us. So I vote for keep it up and keep us all in the loop! We are your online family. As for my advice, hmm, I don't really have any! I've been married 18 years and don't really know how to date or what sorts of things are normal. If you have a strong connection with this guy, then I would say go to SF (since you normally do anyway) but if this guy is just kind of so-so, then I wouldn't bother. But again, I haven't ever really dated, so do what feels right for you and your situation. Good luck! I hope it all works out really well for you! Hugs, Lisa

ABSOLUTELY!!! What the heck- fun - living this is what this is all about... GO FOR IT>>>!!!!!!

Andrea, Go for it girl! My guess is that you would regret not going way more than going. Take those chances and you never know what could happen! Tina

AWWWWWWWWWW GO FOR IT!!!! I second everyones motions! ...and third it... ...and fourth it... yadda yadda yadda yadda LIVE LOVE LIFE Mandie P.S. Do make sure to give us any good juicy details!!!