It's afficial, we split up!!!!

Hi all, Well John and I finally split up. It happened over the weekend. He moved out last night. I don't even know where but it was getting ugly. He needs alot of growing up to do and I can't help him any longer. I need to focus on me and my children.We were constantly and it was too stressfull and I just can't take it anymore. After 28 years of marriage I now understand why couples split up after so many years. I never understood how they could just give up on their marriage after all that time but if it's not working out then it's time to get some time apart. We both have plenty of time to reconsider but we are going to need alot of counseling and I'm going to need your support people, OKAY!! Cheri

Oh Cheri, I'm really sorry you guys split up ... 28 years is a very long time, but if things are not working out, you gotta do what you gotta do!! Hang in there girl, take care of YOURSELF and let things just run its course!! Please let us know if you need anything and if you need to vent/talk, we are here for you!!!

Cheri- So sorry to hear you split up. We're here for you. hugs, andrea

You just hang in there. Sounds as if you are a little relieved. It's a hard decision, but when push comes to shove, sometimes you just have to shove a little bit to get what you want. KWIM? Anyway, you vent here anytime. We've got your back! HUGS Kimberly

Hi Ladies, Thank you all for the support and kind words. I'm a little depressed because for some reason I keep blaming myself and I know it's not me. I tried so hard to make this marriage work but it takes the two of us not just me. You know what I'm saying. I think I'll do ok but to be honest I do love him to death but I have to learn to love me more. Hugs, Cheri

Well, it sounds like you made the right decision. Who knows where it will end up? Sometimes when we think things aren't going our way, something happens that makes us realize that God had a plan all along. As far as blaming yourself....perfectly natural....but don't do it! You are not to blame alone. It will take some getting used to, but good things are headed your way! I can feel it! Always remember... When life gives you crap...... Just flush the toilet! Hee hee hee HUGS Kimberly

Hi Kim, First of all honey thanks for putting a smile on my face. It's been awhile since I've smiled at all. I think you are right, good things are coming my way. I just applied for a job at a Rehab place about 30 minutes from my house. Say a prayer for that I get it. I've been working really hard on trying to get in the door at a rehab. Hugs, Cheri

Cheri ~ It's so funny that you say you love him to death....I've often said, "how can you love someone with all your heart and dislike them so much at the same time?"

Maria, You look amazing. Really pretty. You are so right. I do love him to death but at the same time I can't stand him. I don't know what it is but it's like I don't like him anymore. I'm so tired of all the time and I'm sure the kids are too. My kids are older to so it's even easier for us to call it quits. Thanks so much for your support. It really makes a differnce for me to know that I have friends *****ally care. Hugs, Cheri

Hey Cheri, My thoughts are with you right now. I can understand what you are going through and can only hope that you both will find peace of mind, whether it be together or apart. My marriage ended seven years ago and it has taken both he and I this long to realize that we are better people and parents when we are not together. As far as the blaming yourself...honey...you are a woman...that is what we do. We bear the weight of the world on our shoulders. Not sure why...but we do. Just remember...you are a beautiful person who deserves to be loved by someone who is worthy of you! You just have to keep telling yourself that! If you need to talk...vent...yell...scream...whatever, remember that we are here! Just me...Jess