Problem with compliments

Ok I guess I shouldn't complain but does anyone else have a problem with compliments. The people I work with tell me almost daily how great I'm looking and how wonderful it is that I have lost so much (-132). The problem is that to me it is a constant reminder of how bad I looked before. I know they mean well and are happy for me. As far as that goes I'm happy for me. It is just hard to be reminded about the past so much. I don't want to say anything so I just smile and nod. It's just getting sorta frustrating.

You know, just take it with a smile because they mean well!! When I show people at work my before pics, non of them really remember me like that ... but they can see that I'm loosing weight, but dont always remember where I came from!

IT WILL GET BETTER I FIND THAT WHEN SOMEONE IS LOOKING AT ME IT MAKES ME FEEL FUNNY AND I HAVE TO TURN THE OTHER WAY , SURE I LIKE IT BUT AT THE SAME TIME ITS WEIRD .. WTG ON THE WL SARA

It embarrasses me more than anything. It immediately draws everybody's attention right to my body. Then someone will ask: "So how much have you lost?" I hate that because the number is so big and I feel like they are looking at me and thinking, "Holy cow!!! She lost 84 lbs and she's still chubby! She must have been really, really big." This is probably just my own insecurity, but it FEELS real! I do feel stuck in the middle now. When I'm with people who did not know me before, I look chubby which makes me feel self-concious, but when I'm with people who knew me prior to the weight loss they think I look great, but they always bring it up. Sometimes I just don't want to think about it and of course, that is when someone will ask, "so how much..blah, blah, blah!" Oh well! It's great for the most part! Right?....Right. Take Care Peter, C Leigh

I saw someone today whom I haven't seen since one week post op. She almost fell over! I've lost 80 pounds, so I can imagine how much more drastic it is for you. But, while the compliments were wonderful, I felt strangely uncomfortable too. So you are not alone. I think we will get used to it. Just make sure you see everybody you haven't seen for a while to get it over with.

While the compliments are nice, I agree with you Peter - it's almost like you can hear them silently saying "Wow, you really were huge before surgery". It seems like at least once a day I have someone saying, "Wow, you're just melting away"....I had one guy tell me today not to lose too much more because there wouldn't be anything left - believe me, I could lose more and there would be plenty left! But when all is said and done, I try to take the compliments with a smile and "Yeah, thanks - I feel great too".... Congrats on the loss, Maria 272/173.6/170

I know where you are coming from. It's hard to hear it all sometimes. Then you have to go into "your story" when you say how much you've lost, etc... Sending "you're not alone hugs" Kimberly

Hi Peter, Your not alone on this Believe me? I work in a Hospital and every time I work on a differnent floor I get someone asking OMG......... Cecelia how much wieght have you lost. And Its not descrietly it out loud. It just gets to overwhelming sometimes. But sometimes it does feel good, When they look at you with amazment! Just wi**** would'nt be so often.

Just try and enjoy the compliments you have worked really hard to loose this weight and deserve the praise, I understand that it can make a person feel awkward to have focus on your body and weight but just try and enjoy the compliments and congrats on such a big loss..lisa m