My New Year is already messing up and going down hill too!Please HELP ME!!!

Anyone and everyone who cares my New Year has started out terrible already. It's like one thing after another. We get a call first thing this morning that my husbands cousin died from a massive heart attack and she's only 45 yrs. old Then are truck broke down and we were suppossed to take our youngest son to get him his license in Enfield but we were to late so we had to reschedule all over again and the $40.00 fee again too. My van broke down this morning too, so you all can see my year is not starting out to well. John and I argue constantly and we both can't take it anymore either. I suggessed that he get out for a while and we stay away from each other for a while and hey if it doesn't work out then so be it. He'll go his way and I'll go mine. I'm know I;m just rabbleling on and on but you people are all i have right now, sad but true. Please help me I'm going crazy because I don't know what to do. I'm actually to embarressed to say what he's been doing but Like I've said before he';; get the hell out before any of that crap starts up again. I won't allow it, not this time. I love me and the kids more. Please if any of you could relate in anyway please feel free to email on here or privatley if you would like to talk that way too. I really need some help people. Hugs, Cheri

Cheri, first of all, I think I can speak for most if not all here that we DO care!!!! I am so sorry for your loss, and for all the stuff you are going through. Sometimes life just sucks soooooo bad- that's all I can say. I don't really think that there is anything that any of us could help you with, except to be your friend and listen. I just read today that the divorce rate for couples in which one of them had weight loss surgery, and they were already heavy when they got married, is 85 percent!! And you have TWO people in your marriage that had it! The changes you both are going through must be something else!!! I, too, am considering divorcing as I posted on another post. It's not an easy decision- even though I can't stand my husband lately. It's the loss of a dream, hurting my daughter, yadda, yadda, yadda--- all of the stuff that goes along with divorce. I am not a crier- but man, I have sogged up some pillowcases lately, I tell ya! I don't know what else I could do or say, but just know that we DO care about you, very much! Hang in there, and please keep posting whenever you need to!!! ((((Cheri))))) Michele

Oh Cheri... I am so sorry for what you are going through. We care for you so very much, and if anyone knows the changes you are going through, it's us on the board. Life really does suck sometimes, as Michele said, but the more it sucks, the more good you have ahead of you. And men suck too. lol If I can help in any way, please email me. Love ya, Cristi

Cheri, Sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. I wish there were more I could do to help. Marriage problems are just gut-wrenching, no way around it!! A few years ago we were on the brink of divorce too, but we worked it out and have a fantastic relationship now. So there IS hope. We are always here to listen and offer a kind word. I have personally benefited from the kindness of "not so" strangers here on this board many times. My thoughs are with you sweetie, C Leigh

Hi Cheri~ I can't offer you any advice, but I can offer support and an ear when you might need it! I wish I could do more! But you are sooooooo right about loving yourself! Keep it up girl! Love~ Grace

Cheri when it seems when it rains it pours.. Sometimes all the bad stuff has to happen to make way for the good. It will get better, it just takes some time. I know that dosen't help much now but, you have so much to look forward to in life... Just know that you have people who care here and we are pulling for ya! peace mo

Cheri- We care and this board is here for you to be able to talk someone. I don't think I can help in anyway, but tell you that I am soooo sorry you are going through this trying time and that we are here to listen. Feel free to e-mail me privately if you need to vent more. Hugs, Andrea

Hi everyone, I want to thank each and everyone of you for your support. It has been a very timing New Year for John and myself. I tried to talk to him but nothing seems to vail. I'm not sure what's in store for us but I do know one thing, it's his lost. Thank you again. I need all the support I can get now. Cheri