just needing words of encouagement

Hello everyone~ Life seems to have been so tough lately! I keep asking myself what I did to tick off God. Not that he has given me anything major bad but a lot of little things just adding up! My weight loss has been very minimal over the last month but that seems to finally be picking up! I have been sick for the last month, our finacial situation has been pretty tight as my husbad is a contractor that does construction and here we are in the middle of Winter. We planned Christmas right down to the last penny so that we could still give the kids a nice holiday, then last night my purse with a lot of our holiday cash in it was stolen. Not to mention that the purse was a very special gift given to me by my husband this last March for our anniversary. Now not only am I out the cash but I have no ID, no credit cards and no way of writing any checks!! I have been crying for the last 3 hours! I am mad at myself and mad at whoever stole it! Mad at myself because we went shopping last night and when we got home as I was getting things out of the car my husband asked for my car keys so he could get something out of his truck, I gave them to him and when he brought them in I didn't check to see that he had locked my car or not and apparently when my hands were full with the gifts and getting the kids in the house I left my purse behind! This is the 2nd time I have had a purse stolen out of my car here at our house and I have had 2 cell phones stolen! I am just so mad at myself for leaving it and so mad at someone taking it! I don't know if I am crying because I am mad or upset! I am still wondering what I did to tick off God and how to get back in his good graces! I know I should just be very greatful that we are all well and happy and I have everyone around me that I love! I know that some of us have lost loved ones and some of us are missing our family that is in Iraq so my self pity is pretty pathetic I am just down and feeling depressed! Thank you all for listening. My husband is working out of town today and I cannot get ahold of him to talk to and you all are my other rock so thanks! Grace

((((((((((((GRACE))))))))))))))) I am so sorry that things are going so bad right now. I hope and know that things will only get better for you!! Best wishes, Nancy

Grace, I'm sorry that this happened to you, especially at Christmas time!! This wasn't your fault! It happens to most of us at some point and it is very common during the holidays!! I had my purse stolen out of my car last year and the kicker is that I was standing outside when it happened. I was at my mom's front door with my car door open and some guy on a bike rode up and reached in my car and was off before I could even shout at him. I was stunned! Then a week later my house was broken into and we think someone stole our social security numbers and other "identity" information and used it to try to get credit in our names. Luckily, I had alerted the credit bureau's and they were able to stop any credit pursuits in our names. Make sure that you do the same. Contact all three! Equifax, Experian, and I forget the other one. Trans-Union, I think. I also put passwords on all of my accounts so that noone could access my money by walking into the bank with my account number which is on every check that you write including the stolen ones in your purse. What a frusteration and disappointment to deal with at this time of year!!! --Let it out!! ~C Leigh

Please don't be so hard on yourself. It was an accident. It's so hard not to blame yourself, I know I have had the same things happen to me. My house was broken into, then my car, then my purse was stolen out of a friend's car. I also know the anger you feel. It is really upsetting when these worhtless people take things that don't belong to them. It ticks me off to hear about people having worked so hard for things and then some piece of crap just takes off with it. I agree with C Leigh, make sure to let all the appropriate people know right away that you been victimized. I wish I could be of more help. I am really sorry this happened to you and your family.

Grace- I am so sorry. This all sounds awful. I know compared to some things (like loosing love one's and such) it isn't important. But don't minimize it. It's ok to feel sad about all what happened to you. Because that was crummy what happened to you. I hope this doesn't sound like a lecture..but I have had bouts of depression in my life. If you feel like life is hard work everyday. Or your sad every day... check with your doctor. Or you cry for no apparent reason (you obviously had good reason to cry) Depression is really normal after surgery. Some of it is just plain hormonal and chemical. And some of it is because this is a major life change. (and ANY major life change - loss of job, loss of parent, moving, change of job, death of friend or family...can set off depression). Just don't be afraid to mention it to your Doctor if you are feeling low most of the time. A big hug! I hope your already feeling better by today! Linda

I don't know just what words to say to confort you, I sure would if I knew them. What a discouraging thing to happen so close to Christmas. Or at any time of the year. I am glad the spinless no good did not rob you as you were getting the children out of the car. I often leave my purse in the car or the car unlocked in parking lots with packages in it. I have live in Fayetteville Arkansas for fifteen years and it's different time now and I don't do it anymore, perhaps that's the same in your area. I liked the advice others gave you re protecting your credit. OH and my the way I don't think God is mad at you he doesn't cause evil. He may use this situation to teach you cause he can use what the devil would conjure up as evil and turn it in to a lesson for us or even good for us or someone other child of his. Sooo hang tough and don't let this turn into depression. As I am one to testify that if you give in to the spirit of depression it can be a lifes battle. Glad you turned to your friends on the board, Cil