Ok...I need a pep talk~

I KNOW.. I KNOW that we shouldn't compare weight loss. I know my body is not the same as anyone else's. I know what my eating was pre-surgery and what it is post-surgery. I was never a "bad" eater. I was a healthy eater for the most part. No food addictions, gorging, over eating, etc. I know my body just SUCKS at how it burns fat. But I am having a pity party here. :sniff* I am 4 months out and my weight loss is slower than almost everyone's. I am being good. Compliant. My exercise needs to go up, but I am working on it! I am 5' 5 1/2 inches tall, started at 285 presurgery. At surgery I was 272. I am right around 223 today. It makes 49 lbs lost since surgery. I have to go back to my surgeon next week and I KNOW they are going to be in my face because I haven't lost more. But it isn't like I am not doing everything they want! Anyway, I have every confidence that I will get to goal...by a year out or close to it. But in the meanwhile I need to keep my chin up and it is getting harder as I watch my numbers creep along, and everyone else's run away like mad! OK...end of whine. Oh wait. One more... Wah Kathie 285/272/**223**/150ish???

Ummm....misery loves company??? Im in there with ya Kathie What are we to do?? I agree it is hard hearing about the big weight losses. I am happy for the others but every once in a while I just feel like having a pity party too. At least you are ahead of me That says something! I am 5'7" 230 preop 185 this morning but higher tonight....I weigh myself too much. so, my loss is 45 lbs or so.....plus I don't even have the presurgery loss!!! I keep telling myself that it will happen. I am not perfect. I don't work out like I should. I graze a little too much probably. But all in all I am eating okay.....I certainly don't put the food in like I used to. But, like you, I think my body just won't burn the fat like others do. So, hang in there. I believe we will make it. We are just slower. How is your hair doing? I lost a little for a couple of weeks but then it seemed to stop. Hopefully I wn't lose much more. Happy Thanksgiving. Pam W

OHMYGOSH! Hair Well, I was doing fine. Then went I went in to follow up with my surgeon about 3 weeks ago and my weight loss was lower than what they "expected for me" (HOW THE HELL WAS I SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT WAS EXPECTED I WAS NEVER TOLD..anyway)... ...I was told my weight loss was slow because I was doing protein shakes still. They don't want us doing protein shakes past 1 month out. *grumble..don't agree...grouch ..pitch ..complain* OK..I don't agree but will play. I stopped doing shakes. Within 10days my hair started falling out. OH HAEEEELLL NO! I am doing shakes again every day. Not as much..but I WILL NOT destroy my body and muscle. To me, if I am losing hair then I am depriving my body of something it needs. The surgeon and office says one will lose hair regardless. The hair loss has slowed down since I started shakes again. Hmmm coink-y-dink? Think not... ..and when I go back I will smile and nod and not argue, not lie, but do what I feel is best for myself in the long term. Slow loss is fine...as long as I get there. BUt I want to BE HEALTHY for the rest of my life. Sufficient iron and protein are supposed to be the best means to combat hair loss. Thank heavens I have been blessed with a big ole hokin head of hair. BUT I WANNA KEEP IT DANG IT. I would NOT make a pretty bald chick. My face is too... something...I couldn't do bald. And fake reds are just ugly *G* At least for your weight loss, you are a "lightweight" and they are known to lose slower. I am at the edge of that, and everyone that is around my starting weight seems to be in Onederland now. *sigh* I will not envy..I will not envy... I can't help it though. I am starting to have anxiety about going back into the surgeon's office. The last visit was horrid...I left there feeling, honestly, the worst I have ever felt in over 20 years.. totally mentally beaten down. I can't go through that again.... Kathie 285/272/**223**/150

I don't know Kathie- it seems to me that your biggest problem is your damn surgeons office!!! How DARE they berate you and make you feel bad!! That makes me so mad!! You lose what you lose, and unless you're eating Twinkies by the case, there is not much you can do about it this early out! I firmly believe that!! You walk in there with your head held high. Do NOT allow them to change your mood- that is giving them your power. I think if it were me, and they started to put me down by saying that I wasn't losing enough weight, I would tell them to KISS MY a$$ and walk out and find another doctor to follow up with!! You do not need that crap!! Incidentally, I stopped my protein shakes and I have been losing faster than ever. Maybe it's a coincidence, I don't know. Perhaps you can try to concentrate on getting your protein from your food? Lowfat cottage cheese is an excellent source of protein if you can handle it. I love it. Hang in there.... and don't allow anyone else to bring you down. Let it go in one ear and out the other. When all is said and done, and the weight is gone, it won't matter that you lost it more slowly than some others. (((hugs))) Michele

Kathie- Your surgeon's office needs to . I agree with Michelle- HOW DARE THEY??? You just went through hell to have this surgery and the recovery process stinks. FYI, I was also told to go off protein shakes-- and try to make the protein by real food-- However protein (low carb) bars are considered OK, It could be just timing, rather than the shakes. Go in with your head held high. IF they give you a hard time, find another doctor to follow up with---. Lots of love, Andrea

Kathy, You are right if you ate healthy before surgery it will take you little longer to lose. However, the insides of your body have probably not aged like those of us that abused our bodies before surgery. We are losing faster because we are nothing but flab. You are doing great!!! Slow and steady wins the race!!! Sonya

Kathie- I know....it sucks when you compare to others. But everything is relative. I have made it to onderland in the last few days. However, I have lost about the same as you! (I have lost 51 lbs since surgery) I hated the early weigh ins-- Because I had ALWAYS lost the least amount. In fact, I have honestly quit posting and reading the Sunday and other weigh ins. Not only can we not compare weight loss because we have different body's and body types. We also have different surgery days and surgeons and even types of surgery. Just do your best to try and NOT compare. When I start feeling down about what I "have yet to do". I make a list of all that I have accomplished. And all the things that are already better because of what I have lost so far. I am sorry and I know it sucks being such a slow looser. And it seems worse now that our weight loss is slowing down. HUGS! We will get to our goal somehow!!! Linda